Last night my middle sister, Nina, came over to talk about Tracy’s situation. Nina is about 20 months older than Tracy, so their relationship is a lot different than ours. Nina has the grace of youth to be able to say whatever she wants, and Tracy talks more freely with her. Apparently when Tracy came to Nina and told her she was pregnant, she asked her if they had been using protection, and she confessed that they hadn’t. Actually, I believe the conversation went something like “Were you guys using protection?” “Nina! Stop! Oh my god, that is so awkward.” “Well, were you?” “I mean, not really. No. This is so freaking awkward.” “You know what else is awkward? Having a baby come out of your vagina.”
She also told Nina that she is upset that people aren’t excited about the baby, and said the worst thing about this whole situation is that now she’s going to get fat.
yeah. Nina and I have both struggled with our weight our entire lives and Tracy has always been very thin. It kills me that this is what she is worried about. Not, you know, finding a place to live and getting a stable job and making sure that her shit is in order. No, she’s just worried about the fact that she’ll gain weight.
She also told Nina that she thought maybe she would announce her pregancy to her dad by having her stepmom (who knows that she is pregnant) fill her stocking with baby things and stuff that says “Number One Grandpa”.
She’s out of her damn mind, seriously.
Meanwhile, her boyfriend has apparently been getting lots of mysterious “DJ GIGS” last minute, and she can’t go because she’s underage (well, so is he, but since he’s part of the entertainment, I guess he’s allowed in). I’m not so sure he’s not using this time to meet up with other girls, especially given his past infidelity. I also found out that her boyfriend hasn’t told a single member of his family yet.
The whole thing is just so freaking infuriating.
Tracy is the kind of person who loves drama and wants to make herself out to have a sob story at every turn. An example of her dramatics–she dropped out of high school and continued to live at my mom’s and work. She is an emotional terrorist and a bully. When she gets angry, she will say anything that comes to her mind. She’ll throw things and get physically violent (although I do have to give her credit–that has stopped for the most part over the past few years). My mom put a lot of rules into place once Tracy turned 18. She could continue to live there, but my mom would not allow her horrible behavior to continue. One night they got into a huge fight because Tracy didn’t like my mom’s boyfriend, and she called our mother a whore. My mom told her she wasn’t going to put up with her abuse, and that she had to leave. She gave her time to find an apartment and everything else, but she stuck to her guns. Tracy then turned around and told everyone that because she dropped out of high school, my mom threw her out of the house and she had no where to go, etc etc. They’ve since repaired their relationship, and Tracy is back at the house because she couldn’t hack living on her own.
Now there’s this. Apparently Tracy made a doctor’s appointment for next Tuesday. Her boyfriend is “pretty much booked through January” according to her, so she’s going alone. We all offered to go with her, even though they’re just doing the confirmation blood test and getting back ground information. She responded with “No, it’s okay, I can do this all alone.”
I’m just afraid this is another episode in the Tracy the Trainwreck Biopic. I’ve had conversations with my mom already about how she probably needs to start therapy now so that she can set some firm and hard boundaries. As much as I hate to say it, I can see Tracy and her boyfriend walking all over my mom once the baby is here. I want to do everything I can to prevent that. My mom was a damn good mother growing up, although she had her flaws, like everyone else. She worked two jobs to make sure that me and my sisters could go to private school and have the opportunities that she didn’t have. She would do anything for any of her kids, and the thought of Tracy manipulating her is already making me angry.
Does anyone have any suggestions in that regard?