(Closed) My sister is pregnant and I'm Upset

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Worker bee

No advice except to look forward to being the awesome aunt. Hopefully your sister will make some changes in her life and end up being an awesome mom, too. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

You can’t change your sister; the best thing to do is try not to let this get to you and support the child however you can, even if that just means being around to listen to him/her in the future and being a stable presence in his/her life.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Well that’s not very nice to say about your sister….I’d be excited for her! People change, but don’t assume what kind of mother she will be or that she is just getting pregnant to post something on social media…just focus on being happy for her and your future niece or nephew.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I think that being upset will not make the situation any better, if your sister is old enough to get pregnant then you just need to let her get on with her life. Just support her the best you can and hopefully this will set her on a better track! I get the worrying, but there isn’t much you can do other than be there for her and help her in any way you can. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

why would you ever be unhappy about someone else pregnancy?

 

the only time that appropriate is if you have been hurt by loss, to think badly of such a happy thing because of your PERSONAL views of someone is just horrible

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

i get where you’re coming from.  It’s hard not to be upset when someone you feel responsible for makes decisions you think are bad ones.  Unfortunately, the only thing you can do is support her and her baby.  *hugs* hope you feel better soon.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Totally understand where you’re coming from. It’s hard to watch someone we’re close to be wreckless and know that an innocent new life is going to suffer because your sister is irresponsible. And it doesn’t help that the entire world thinks you should be happy about pregnancies regardless of their circumstances. Nothing you’ve said here sounds wrong; it sounds like you’ve watched your sister make poor decisions and are just worried about how the child is going to be affected. That IS responsible. That is compassionate. The kid will be lucky to have you in his or her life!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

pebblexox:  “Old enough to get pregnant” is like 12 years old… I really think that’s a poor metric for deciding if someone is capable of making independent life choices. That’s outside the scope of this conversation, and I don’t want to derail this thread, but it’s just a really narrow and illogical view honestly.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Are your parents available to help her? A child will probably give her a swift kick of reality. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

wonderlily:  I’m assuming the sister was old enough to make that choice, I worded it wrong. I’m assuming from reading the post she is an adult, that is all I meant by it. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

anon4lyfe:  Your feelings are NOT horrible…it saddens me when unstable people who can’t financially take care of children have children.Nothing wrong with being disappointed that she’s gotten herself into a tough situation. When my 15 year old cousin got pregnant, how the hell would I be happy?She didn’t even finish high school yet….has nothing to do with how I would feel about the child itself which is a separate set of emotions from the reality. But yes, nothing can be done about it now except to give her your undying support as much as you can practically do.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

pebblexox:  I have to agree with wonderlily. My cousin was pregnant at 13 and was in no way capable to take care of the child financially or emotionally

wonderlily:  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

btob17:  A pregnancy is not always a happy thing. 

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