Post # 1
So, I am getting married in one month and I know for a fact my sister is trying to ruin my wedding. My fiance works in the oil field and my sister has tried for many years to find a boyfriend who works in the oil field, but she didn’t and then acted very childish when she found out I met someone who did. Also, she has told me that she will do whatever she can to upstage me on my wedding day. She said that she will wear white and do everything she can to look better than me. Lastly, she is refusing to be my Maid/Matron of Honor or even Bridesmaid because she is upset I am getting married before her. I am upset, sad and don’t know what to do. I am tired of dealing with her craziness but it is so exhausting to try and stop it.
Post # 2
So…if someone told me that they were going to do everything in their power to upstage me on my wedding day, I can’t say I’d be too hurt or surprised at them refusing to be my moh or a bridesmaid.
Why on earth do you want her to be in your wedding anyway? Because she’s your sister? Honestly I wouldn’t even bother inviting her and save yourself the stress and drama.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
Steal her thunder and elope!
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2019 - City, State
Why would you want her to be Maid/Matron of Honor or a bridesmaid? She sounds like a jerk. ignore her. She’s looking for attention and to upset you. So just be like “yeah okay cool sis go for it.” As soon as she realizes she’s having no effect, she’ll give up. Or she’ll be a crazy lunatic and people will laugh at her. Either way, she’s not going to ruin or upstage your wedding because she’s not the bride.
Post # 5
geez i wonder why a prize like her hasn’t found a guy yet.
Post # 6
Definitely don’t have her in the wedding party or involved in any way.
And seat her in the nosebleeds.
Post # 7
Well, if you do still invite her, she is going to look like a COMPLETE idiot. Especially if you are having a great time with your new husband, and maybe giving her a laugh or two for being such a fool.
Post # 8
Are you guys even out of high school? This sounds so childish and dramatic.
Post # 9
You can’t change her or her behavior. You can change your response. Don’t let her push your buttons. Let what she says go in one ear and out the other. Part of the kick she gets is in anticipating, then seeing your reaction. DON”T REACT.
Post # 10
It just makes me upset. Like I said in my post, my sisters goal was always finding a boyfriend in the oil field. So, when I first got with my fiance, she acted so pathetic and desperate because I got the guy she wanted. Finally, my fiance said he would try and fix her up with one of his friends who worked in the oilfield also, but she didn’t like any of them. My fiance has said he DOES find my sister attractive and maybe if we hadn’t have met first and they did, maybe they would be together (at least he told her that). So I feel like something might happen from there, even though I know my fiance loves me.
Post # 11
If she does all that, she’s going to look like a complete fool. Let her make an ass out of herself.
Enjoy your day, and don’t have her in your wedding party.
she can only ruin your wedding if you allow her to get under your skin
Post # 12
southernpeach99 : did your fiancé tell YOU that maybe your sister and him would have been together? Or did this come from the sister who you say is trying to ruin everything?
Why would you marry someone who told you that? Someone who told you that you are second best? Someone who said if he met your sister before you, he would be with your sister?
Post # 13
Sansa85 : My sister told me he said that, although my fiance denies it. So who knows.
Post # 14
southernpeach99 : You’re a month out and haven’t chosen your bridesmaids or MOH? Or did she agree and now she’s saying she doesn’t want to be in the wedding? I don’t understand why you would want her around if she’s being so nasty.
Have her as a guest, don’t pay any attention to her, enjoy your special day.
ETA, I just read your update and I’d have a huge problem with my fiance telling my sister that they could have potentially ended up together… this whole thing seems really sketchy.
Post # 15
southernpeach99 : I wouldn’t believe your sister. Not from what you’ve described, I would doubt he told her that