(Closed) My sister is still bothering me

posted 2 months ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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8947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

lulabellegrace :  You sound like the trainwreck here. Your sister is happy and livng a life she wants. You on the other hand sound bitter and jealous and are getting so upset by someone else’s happy life that you are throwing shade towards her to anyone that will listen.  That sure sounds like a trainwreck to me. Be careful or you will wake up alone and bitter because people will get sick of listen to you spew your hate.

Everyone is telling you that you are the problem but instead of reflecting on that you double down. Maybe you should see a professional.

Post # 17
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5752 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Chile – all these wonderful flavors in the world and you choose to be perpetually salty…

Post # 18
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130 posts
Blushing bee

Personally I don’t understand why her life choices bother you so much but it sounds like you just need to ignore your sister and stay out of one another’s lives. You both have very different lives, and if her life bothers you so much then remove yourself from it. You can get on with your life and she can get on with hers and there shouldn’t be a problem anymore. It’s a shame that you can’t make the relationship work but if she really bothers you that much then it sounds like it would be best to not see/talk to her anymore. 

Post # 19
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832 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

 If this is real, you need to shake up your own life a little bit. You’re obviously jealous and bitter but as I said on your last post, it’s not too late to bring a little excitement into your own life.  Plan a trip, take a new class.  Do something different and new.  How you’re living your life now isn’t working for you or you wouldn’t be this hung up on your sister’s life.  

Post # 20
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301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Get a hobby….

Post # 21
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4763 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Sometimes people irritate the hell out of us, but it’s an us problem, not a them problem. My sil hated everyone. Absolutely everyone. Especially if they were happy, she hated happy people the most. She passed away before she ever figured out that she hated everyone because she was miserable. She didn’t hate them because of them, she hated them because she hated herself

You don’t have much insight or self awareness in this situation, it’s time to listen to the world (you sound jealous and unhappy) and do some soul searching to find out exactly what the issue is

Post # 22
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3245 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

You are living your life the way it works for you, she’s living her life the way it works for her. She’s happy, you’re not. She’s living her life the right way. 

She doesn’t have to live a life of couponing just because that’s what you find value you. She doesn’t have to get married just because that’s what you find value in. She’s doesn’t have to settle in one location just because that’s what you find value in.

She isn’t demanding you to live her life, stop demanding that she live yours.

Post # 23
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3683 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think you should cut her out of your life. She doesn’t deserve to have someone so judgemental analyzing and criticizing her every move. Do it for her since you’re the problem here.

Post # 24
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1317 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

 So what are you hoping to accomplish with this post? You came off as jealous and bitter previously and then decided to double down here? As everyone has said in both posts, this is a you problem. You need to reevaluate your life. 

Post # 25
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388 posts
Helper bee

What everybody here has said is correct. Your sister is fine. It sounds like she is doing a lot of great work to build a life that works for her. You……..appear not to be, but are judging her for it. It seems like you are pretending she is doing something wrong because you dislike your life. That isn’t about her, it’s about you. 

Stop blaming her for your life. She isn’t doing anything wrong. 

 

 

Post # 26
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616 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

 You will lay off your sister. My god. Stop grilling her. She is happy, your not. We know. Her life is adventourous, yours isn’t. What are you looking for? We are going to say the samething that we said in your other post. Yes your jealous. If she dosen’t want to get married so what, it’s not your life. If she want’s to be best friends with someone so what, it’s not your life. You need to move on and get your own.

Post # 27
Hostess
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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