My sister is tired of being married after only six months!

posted 11 months ago in Beehive
Post # 16
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754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

omg. I hope she doesnt expect much for her next one.

And I hope she’s making the right choice.

Post # 17
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2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I would class her as one of the people who wants to “get” married, but not “be” married.

Post # 18
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83 posts
Worker bee

Your sister sounds like a complete b-tch. No offense. 

Post # 19
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3393 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

What the fuck? She sounds very self absorbed. Does she even care how much she is hurting this man who has been nothing but a good partner to her? She wants out so she can date around and be single? Ohhhh boy is she in for a rude awakening. The grass is always greener and you can bet your ass after 6-12 months of the single life the novelty will wear off. 

I’m not suggesting she should stay married but Jesus Christ I hope she learns from this and takes these decisions more seriously in the future. 

Post # 20
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1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Divorce is expensive and emotionally draining. Try to put aside what it means for you and just be there for her. You may not agree, but it’s her life not yours. 

You can choose not to spend as much on future weddings, but making this divorce header won’t change her mind or make it better.

Post # 21
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1490 posts
Bumble bee

I’m  Not sure what you were trying to accomplish when you told your sister how much you and your family spent on her wedding when she was moving out of her house and leaving her marriage.

Just a dose of shame and guilt? I’m sorry that’s so not cool at all. Try being supportive instead without making it all about you.  Unless you want her to push you away. I’m sure she already feels bad about the money spent on her wedding but that’s not what’s important right now.  

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee

Your sister is willful and acts on whims.That’s it; the nut has been cracked.

Your money and time was wasted, as was your family’s, but all of you did the right thing. You were supportive and you went all out for her, which was nice. Now that you know just how little she thinks of others when making decisions, never go out of your way for her this much again unless it’s something serious or something you’re fine doing even if she changes her mind. 

You probably know that already, but she’s your sister, and it can be easy to think, “Well, maybe this time she’ll stick it with it.” No. Nope. She can follow her whims and dance to her own drum all on her own. She’s responsible for her own happiness, too.

Post # 24
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276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Oh Lordy, she seems like one of those people invested in the wedding and not the actual marriage. 

Sorry, Bee. It must be really tough. All I can say is to not take it personally. Perhaps in a few years she will mature a bit.

I doubt they are even having major/serious problems if she says she just isn’t feeling it anymore.

I’d suggest having a talk with her. Tell her she’s making a hasty decision. Tell her she’s being wishy-washy. Marriage is not clothing that you take off and change at the end of the day. Marriage is a forever commitment. 

Post # 25
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2572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I’m sorry, Bee. That must be hard. That’s frustrating that you guys stood by her and helped so much with the wedding.

Honestly, I’m surprised by the mixed reactions you’re getting. Unless your sister isn’t telling you the whole story or lying, it sounds like she was being really stupid and selfish. And you’re supposed to be supportive and stand by her during this “difficult time?” I’m sorry but she dug her own grave. I’m very close to my sister, but if she did this to me, I would tell her she was being a dumb bitch and what did she expect? 

I’m not saying you should part with her or stop talking to her or anything. But feeling sorry for her or coddling her isn’t going to fix anything. If anything, it will perpetuate this behavior. 

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