Post # 166
My fiance tried to calmly explain why this situation is fucking insane and my mum still went batshit crazy. I tried to suggest some reasonable compromises but she got insanely angry and told me my sister nearly died today running out in front of a car because she was so upset at my behaviour! Low blow?!
So yes, I snapped and told her exactly what I thought about the whole sorry affair. She does not understand that she has done anything wrong. She is now threatening not to come to the wedding but trying to put the onus on us “YOU tell me now that you don’t want us to come” “I love you so much I will not come if that’s what you want”. I had to hang up when she wouldn’t stop screaming about how much I’ve hurt her getting upset about “nothing”.
So I’m guessing she’s not coming and quite frankly, I’d prefer them not to (despite me trying to consider my sister in all of this).
Thank you to all the kind posters who’ve taken the time to support us amidst this madness and hopefully, when the big day arrives (25th!) I will be glowing and happy and not a haggard husk of my former self.
Oh and what you said Bumble bee:
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OP, put on your big girl undies and tell your mom to knock this shit off! She knows exactly what she’s doing and you are a grown ass women, so tell her to stop it! Your wedding day will be much happier without them there.”
Post # 167
That is completely nuts! Your mother is nuts!
I don’t know what bothers me more: 1) The possibility that your sister did not throw herself in front of a car and your mother is saying she did in order to manipulate a response out of you (what sort of mother fabricates a story like that about her child?!) or, 2) the possibility that your sister did throw herself in front of a car and you mother is still focusing on a flipping dress rather than getting her child help.
It’s all too much.
For your sake I hope they stay home.
Post # 168
I’m so glad you stood up for yourself. You deserve to be happiness. I hope you have a wonderful wedding, take care of yourself.
Post # 169
For the love of all things holy. Is this a new low for her or is she always this fucking insane? Where is your sister’s dad (your step-dad? ) Is he crazy too? Unfortunately, it sounds like your mom and sister are a package deal and neither of them need to come to your wedding. You’ll be so much better off.
Post # 170
Wow. Your mom is crazy. And while your sister is young, 14 is old enough to know that this is unacceptable. Enjoy your drama free wedding day without them there!
Post # 171
I am so glad you and your Fiance stood up to your Mother. It sounds like it’s better that they don’t attend. I will have my fingers crossed that nothing else totally bat shit crazy happens until the 25th!
Post # 172
wow. I would give up at this point, i think both your sister and mother need some help. Someone running out in the street in front of a car over a dress is nuts, regardless if your mother exaggerated details of why.
i would just cut off all contact at this point, no more wedding details being shared, etc, etc. If shes truly concerned or wants to make an effort let her be the one to call you.
Post # 173
Hopefully, they’ll honor their word and not come to the wedding. But if they do and they still insist on being ridiculous, I hope everyone there makes comments to your mom about your sisters dress like “omg, why would she wear such a thing?! How embarrassing for her…” maybe THEN she’ll get it, but based on her behavior, she’ll STILL probably think there’s nothing wrong with it.
Post # 174
Proud of you bee, you stood up for yourself.
Sounds like your mother has no rational thoughts, and your sister….well the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree.
They really need re-evaluate their priorities.
Post # 175
what a ridiculous claim–that your sister tried to commit suicide because you didn’t want her to wear a wedding dress?
If that’s the case, it’s in her best interest for you to call the police or CPS and report her suicide attempt. While I assume your mother is just lying, perhaps she can explain that to the police/CPS..
Post # 176
This made me think of Kate Middleton’s wedding where her sister wore an understated white dress as maid of honor. It may not be ideal but you will still stand out as THE BRIDE in your beautiful gown.
Post # 177
Thank you for the update! i was wondering what had happened and so glad BOTH you and Fiance said something and were not swayed. If she calls, again just use her own line against her. You love me so much that you wont come if I ask, but you don’t love me enough to honor my wishes and not have sis wear something inappropriate??? yeah, that makes sense.
Post # 178
I’m sorry but your mom sounds kind of crazy narcissistic and seems like she has severely spoiled you little sister. Too bad because your sister will suffer for it in the long run. I suggest you show them this entire thread and let them see what other people think of their behavior. Most 14 year old do not want to look stupid or be embarrassed and maybe if the fourteen-year-old understood how much of a social faux pas this would be she would gladly change her own mind. Sorry for all the drama you have to deal with -hope it everything works out and have a wonderful wedding day!
Post # 179
My mother is incensed we’ve said she’s not welcome at our wedding. Today she played two emotional guilt trump cards.
1. She told us she has found lumps and probably has cancer and it’s our fault she’s not seen a doctor yet as we’ve caused her all this stress
2. She got my sister to tell me she hates me and will never forgive me
It’s possibly a good thing she bought my sister a wedding dress and it escalated so insanely so I can now free myself from her poisonous grip.
We’ve had unprecedented levels of support from other family members and friends as well as on this thread. We are determined to enjoy our day (two weeks today) but possibly in shock this has happened!
Post # 180
in a few years your mother will look back and regret her poor decisions and not getting to see her daughter get married.
i dont get whats so difficult for your mother to just show up to a wedding and be happy.
curious to if your mother and sister have ever acted this way before you ever started wedding planning or got engaged.