(Closed) My sister is wearing an ivory wedding dress to my wedding

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it appropriate for my bridesmaid to wear a wedding dress to my wedding?

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    Yes

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  • Post # 167
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

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    jenniewrennie :  That is completely nuts! Your mother is nuts!

    I don’t know what bothers me more: 1) The possibility that your sister did not throw herself in front of a car and your mother is saying she did in order to manipulate a response out of you (what sort of mother fabricates a story like that about her child?!) or, 2) the possibility that your sister did throw herself in front of a car and you mother is still focusing on a flipping dress rather than getting her child help.

    It’s all too much. 

    For your sake I hope they stay home.

     

    Good luck.

    Post # 168
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

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    jenniewrennie :  I’m so glad you stood up for yourself. You deserve to be happiness. I hope you have a wonderful wedding, take care of yourself. 

    Post # 169
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

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    jenniewrennie :  For the love of all things holy. Is this a new low for her or is she always this fucking insane? Where is your sister’s dad (your step-dad? ) Is he crazy too? Unfortunately, it sounds like your mom and sister are a package deal and neither of them need to come to your wedding. You’ll be so much better off. 

    Post # 170
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    Bumble bee

    Wow. Your mom is crazy. And while your sister is young, 14 is old enough to know that this is unacceptable. Enjoy your drama free wedding day without them there! 

    Post # 171
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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    jenniewrennie :  I am so glad you and your Fiance stood up to your Mother. It sounds like it’s better that they don’t attend. I will have my fingers crossed that nothing else totally bat shit crazy happens until the 25th!

    Post # 172
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    wow. I would give up at this point, i think both your sister and mother need some help. Someone running out in the street in front of a car over a dress is nuts, regardless if your mother exaggerated details of why. 

    i would just cut off all contact at this point, no more wedding details being shared, etc, etc. If shes truly concerned or wants to make an effort let her be the one to call you. 

    Post # 173
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    Helper bee

    Hopefully, they’ll honor their word and not come to the wedding. But if they do and they still insist on being ridiculous, I hope everyone there makes comments to your mom about your sisters dress like “omg, why would she wear such a thing?! How embarrassing for her…” maybe THEN she’ll get it, but based on her behavior, she’ll STILL probably think there’s nothing wrong with it. 

    Post # 174
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

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    jenniewrennie :  Proud of you bee, you stood up for yourself. 

    Sounds like your mother has no rational thoughts, and your sister….well the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. 

    They really need re-evaluate their priorities. 

    Post # 175
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    what a ridiculous claim–that your sister tried to commit suicide because you didn’t want her to wear a wedding dress?

    If that’s the case, it’s in her best interest for you to call the police or CPS and report her suicide attempt.  While I assume your mother is just lying, perhaps she can explain that to the police/CPS..

    Post # 176
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    This made me think of Kate Middleton’s wedding where her sister wore an understated white dress as maid of honor.  It may not be ideal but you will still stand out as THE BRIDE in your beautiful gown.

    Post # 177
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    Busy bee

    Thank you for the update! i was wondering what had happened and so glad BOTH you and Fiance said something and were not swayed. If she calls, again just use her own line against her. You love me so much that you wont come if I ask, but you don’t love me enough to honor my wishes and not have sis wear something inappropriate??? yeah, that makes sense.

    Post # 178
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 1995

    I’m sorry but your mom sounds kind of crazy narcissistic and seems like she has severely spoiled you little sister. Too bad because your sister will suffer for it in the long run. I suggest you show them this entire thread and let them see what other people think of their behavior. Most 14 year old do not want to look stupid or be embarrassed and maybe if the fourteen-year-old understood how much of a social faux pas this would be she would gladly change her own  mind. Sorry for all the drama you have to deal with  -hope it everything works out and have a wonderful wedding day!

    Post # 180
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

     

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    jenniewrennie :  in a few years your mother will look back and regret her poor decisions and not getting to see her daughter get married. 

    i dont get whats so difficult for your mother to just show up to a wedding and be happy. 

    curious to if your mother and sister have ever acted this way before you ever started wedding planning or got engaged. 

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