(Closed) My sister is wearing an ivory wedding dress to my wedding

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  • Post # 181
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

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    jenniewrennie :  

    wow, your mom really tries to up the ante huh.  It is NOT your fault that she is stressed you’re not letting her bulldoze you.. and if she does have lumps (she comes across as pathological..I find it hard to believe) she needs to go get them checked, yesterday.  

    So sorry you had to hear that from your sister, but I’m sure you realize by now her problems are 100% a product of your mother, not you.  She’ll either break free or become a monster in the next 5-10 years.  Whether you let her wear a wedding gown or not will not change that.

    Post # 182
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

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    jenniewrennie :  holy crap!  You’re better off without them there.

    Post # 183
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: NJ

    Your mother saying that about cancer and blaming you for not getting it checked (if it is even true) is a nasty vicious thing to say to you. And your sister almost got hit by a car not because of you, she was probably looking at her phone and walked into traffic. Again, not because of you. 

    The cancer thing really did it for me. You could be just as well not having them at the wedding. I second the thing about Duchess Kate and Pippa. But this tornado of hate over a dress is too much.

    Post # 184
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    Helper bee

    My Mother-In-Law wore a sparkly white/ivory dress (knee length) to my wedding. At first I felt uncomfortable but during the wedding I hardly noticed or thought about it at all! No one confused who the bride was anyway lol. But with your situation…that is an actual WEDDING DRESS for crying out loud, not just a simple white dress. I would vehemently ask her not to wear it and explain (it’s crazy that you even have to!) that it is YOUR wedding day and the only one who should be in a wedding gown is you. Buy her another pink bridesmaid dress so she will match with the others. Seriously how crazy is this!

    Post # 185
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Your mother is a class a abusive, controlling, selfish person — and that is THE BEST thing I can say about her behavior.

    im not going to blame your sister – she’s the child of above, and sounds like your mom is playing scapegoat versus golden child manipulation games. Sad for all, but her fault because she is the parent. 

    Im so glad you are freeing yourself of her bulls*it. I hope she’s just bluffing re the cancer scare, that’s a typical move for these types. They call it “Christmas cancer” on DWIL.

    These types can be counted on to ruin special events. 

     Enjoy your wedding and being the only person wearing a wedding dress. 

    Post # 187
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

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    jenniewrennie :  BEAUTIFUL!!!! thank you for sharing photos

    Post # 188
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

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    jenniewrennie :  You look like a beautiful princess. I am so glad you had the most wonderful day all the best to you and your hubby!

    Post # 189
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m so glad you and your husband stood up to your abusive mother. Congratulations to you both. I hope you both go on without that toxicity in your new life together. 

     

    Post # 190
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    Newbee

    Your pictures are gorgeous indeed! Congratulations on your new life together!

    Post # 191
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

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    jenniewrennie :  beautiful!!! You look so pretty in your dress bee, I’m so glad you stood up for yourself! The flowers and your man are all lovely:-) 

    congrats!! 

    Post # 192
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    Blushing bee

    Beautiful!!!! Congratulations!!!

    Post # 193
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    Helper bee

    WOW, you look so beautiful. Congratulations on your wedding. I’m also about 98% sure that my manipulative mother might not attend my wedding, nor do I want her there if the situation persists. It’s too much money, and the day is too special to spend on drama. Bravo for putting your foot down and realizing that your happiness and peace of mind are important – not because of the wedding or your husband, but for yourself.

    P.S. I absolutely love the boat neck/sleeves detail…. drool…

    Post # 194
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    Congratulations! It looks like you had a perfect day. I’m so glad you came back to let us know how you got on.

    Post # 195
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    Congratulations! Your dress is perfect you looked great!

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