(Closed) My sister isn’t coming to my wedding either.

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

That really sucks.  The part about wanting her FI’s new family to be her only family is wierd to me.  Has she had some sort of a long standing falling out with your family?  I’m confused as to why she would say this out of the blue.  Has she offered any explanation for that?

Regardless, sister difficulty is especially hard when you’re all happy and wanting to share that with the important women in your life. I’m sorry that she’s being this way, but it sounds like she might even try to make your day difficult if she does show.


Oh, and welcome to the Bee!  We’re happy you’re here 🙂 


Post # 4
47380 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow! I would be so upset if my sister treated me like that too!

Post # 6
1746 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This is an awful story. I don’t even know what to say. She seems very unkind. I know it’s difficult because she is your sister, but if she made that decision and proceeded to treat me so badly, I would cut her out of my life and focus on positive things.

My mom and aunt were estranged for a few years for a pretty serious reason involving my uncle (and his dishonesty) but eventually they rekindled a relationship. It’s not deep by any means, but it is civil and friendly at times. My mom is pretty realistic in her expectations of my aunt and vice versa, and as adults, they move on with their own lives and catch up sporadically. 

Maybe that’s how it will be with your sister, but I would really hesitate if I were you. She doesn’t seem trustworthy and she seems incredibly self-involved.

:(. Hugs, lady.

Post # 7
2413 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow…that sucks so bad…she’s your sister…close or not! Sorry you have to deal with that 🙁

Post # 8
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@DaisyNYC:  Are there any long-standing sources of tension in your family? Has your sister felt like this for a long time? Were you close in childhood, or have things always been a bit weird?

Because if there aren’t long-standing issues…your sister is kind of nuts.

In any case, I’m sorry that she won’t be there, but also kind of…maybe it’s a blessing in disguise, you know?

Post # 9
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yuck. I am so sorry.  🙁   You totally deserve to be upset. Surround yourself with your dad and uncle and people who support you. So sorry.

Post # 10
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I can’t believe your sister.  Doesn’t she know that blood is thicker than water?  Just because she is being welcomed into her husband’s family doesn’t mean she needs to dump on her family. That is so inconsiderate.  She’s acting like she’s better than your family.  I really think she should be going to your wedding too.  She seems very selfish right now and also back when she made you a bridesmaid.  I’m sorry you have to go through this

Post # 11
7680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@DaisyNYC:   Wow, I’m sorry about your sister.  She sounds selfish and wacky.  Do what us girls without sisters do, and surround yourself with other woman friends who act more like a sister than your sister does. 

Post # 12
5992 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

if she “only wanted her husband’s family to be her family – that she wanted nothing to do with the rest of us”, why are you invited to her twins christening?

i wouldnt go to be honest – how many times does someone have to treat you like shit before you say to heck with you, i deserve better

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