Post # 1
My sister has many, many issues. I don’t want to go to far in to it, but she is not mentally healthy. She’s in and out of the hospital all the time.
She was supposed to be a bridesmaid in my wedding, but I was prepared for her to drop out last minute, I expected that, but I did hope she would at least be at my wedding…
My mom called me yesterday to inform me that my sister is in the hospital again for overdosing on her medication (This didn’t phase me much… she’s constantly taking too many pills to get high and is in the hospital for that frequently) and told me that she will be out of the hospital in time, but she just doesn’t feel up to coming to my wedding.
I know she’s not well, but I feel like she always makes these selfish choices that further separates her from people close to her and just ends up making her more miserable. I know she’ll regret not seeing me get married. It makes me so sad that I won’t see her at all on my wedding day and that she won’t be in any of the pictures… she isn’t even coming to the rehearsal dinner.
Nothing can be done about it. I pleaded with my mom to see if there was any way we could accommodate her, but my mom says there is no way she is coming. I’m devastated.
Post # 3
I’m so very sorry about your situation. I can imagine that it is very difficult for everyone involved. I wish all of you the best. Try to enjoy your day!
Post # 4
I am so sorry you are going through this. I so completely understand. My brother did not make it to my wedding. He texted me on my wedding day, as we were taking pictures, that apparently he was sick (he wasnt in the wedding but him and his family were invited.) I know he was more than likely not sick, since saw him day before and he looked and talked normally. More than likely his wife said nope not going…. Yeah I was a tad upset on that…
Post # 5
@Sassygrn: Wow that’s terrible! At least my mom let me know a few days ahead of time that she isn’t coming… :
Post # 6
@DeathByDesign: Oh dear! I must say that you seem to be surrounded by selfish people (I’m referring to your post abouf you Future Sister-In-Law showing her wedding pics at YOUR shower…gross!). The only advice I can give you is that at the end of the day, all that matters is that YOU and YOUR Fiance are there and getting married. Good luck to you!
Post # 7
@DeathByDesign: Girl that sucks, I’m really sorry. 🙁 I hope you can still have an amazingly perfect wedding day. It’s unfortunate that you have to deal with the sister situation but hopefully you can focus on the positives: your fiance and the new chapter that you two will soon start together. 🙂
Post # 8
@VegasSukie: yeah lol we have crazy on both sides of the family apparently lol. In the end I can live with my Future Sister-In-Law being kind of self-centered, but my sister not being at my wedding makes me really upset.
Post # 9
@DeathByDesign: 🙁 I’m really sorry! That is very disappointing. I hope your sister gets the help she needs to get herself healthier. I know there is nothing you can do about it and nothing will replace her presence, but I hope you will be able to both acknowledge the disappointment in her not being there for you and focus in on your soon to be husband and the love that will surround you!
Post # 10
That sucks. I’m not inviting one of my sisters due to her untreated mental illness and the problems it causes. The idea is that perhaps this could be a wakeup call for her since the rest of the family just enables her. Maybe this will happen for your sister? I hope your sister gets the help she needs and you have the best day that you can. HUGS.
Post # 11
That really stinks. My older sister has a personality disorder and has struggled with alcohol abuse for about 10 years. About a month and half before my wedding she decided to quit taking her psych meds. I was so worried that she would spiral down and either miss the wedding or make a scene. I spent a good part of my day upset because of the attitude she had and the way she treated me. She also left the reception super early.
Maybe she will change her mind last minute and come, but if she doesn’t you focus on those around you that are there to support you and enjoy your day.
Post # 12
I’m really sorry. I understand what you’re going through. I also have a sister like this. It’s tough, because even though you aren’t surprised at what she’s doing, a part of you hoped she’d pull through just one time for you. I’ve been there too.