(Closed) My sister just found out she’s pregnant… and she’s a bridesmaid…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yikes! Maybe have a family pow-wow about it? Or at least get your sister’s opinion on it? That’s a sticky one! Good luck!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Give her the choice, but looking back on the day 10 years from now, you might wish she was part of the bridal party and in more of the photos, baby bump or not. 

 

Plus, she won’t be THAT big on your wedding day, since you only have a few more months.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

eek! well if she just found out she is preggers and your wedding is in a few months she may not even be showing… maybe if you chose a flow-y dress?

if you ask her to step down it will be obvious it is because she is pregnant. 

good luck!! 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would talk to your family about it and see how your sister feels.  In most circumstances, I would say no way should a pregnant bridesmaid be asked to step down – but this is obviously a unique situation with her age and your family not wanting to draw attention to it.

(Though honestly, people will see her at the wedding and know she’s pregnant whether or not she’s a bridesmaid.  If it were me, I wouldn’t want my sister missing out on standing up for me on such an important day just because she’s pregnant.)

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yikes! I would just sit down and have a long chat with her and see if she’d feel comfortable.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Hmmm. I kind of feel like people are going to be paying attention to the fact that she’s pregnant anyway, because of her age. Regardless of being a bridesmaid or not.

If it were my sister, I’d still want her up there with me if I was standing by her decision to keep and raise the baby. After all, this baby will be a family member long after the wedding and so will she. How do you feel about it? Not factoring in your family’s feelings. This is your sister and your wedding. Do you want her up there with you?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would leave her in the wedding… just get a dress that will hide her belly a bit better… Whether she is in the wedding or not, she’s going to be there and be seen by everyone there, so what difference does it make? If you want her in… keep her in.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

This is a super sticky situation. How do you feel about it?

I would feel like my sister is going to be alienated so much because of this that I would want to show her my support and not push her out like everyone else is probably going to do. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’d give her a little time to come to terms with the situation. Then, have a conversation with her about whether she still can or wants to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Give her an open door if she wants to step down, but accept if she still wants to participate

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Agreed with some of the PP’s. If its an issue of family over all and keeping it quiet then maybe talk about this as a family or maybe with the two of you and your mom. otherwise, if she’s pregnant she’s pregnant. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Agreed with some of the PP’s. If its an issue of family over all and keeping it quiet then maybe talk about this as a family or maybe with the two of you and your mom. otherwise, if she’s pregnant she’s pregnant. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

If it were my sister, I would have had her up there anyway. People are going to find out she’s pregnant eventually, and @mwitter80:  has a really good point

 

@msfahrenheit:  also a good point. I think I would definitely discuss it with her to see how she feels about being up there.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Bridesmaid or Best Man or not, people are going to notice she’s pregnant.  If you want her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in your wedding, leave her in the wedding party.  If you are ok with it either way, let her decide.

 

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