- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014 - The Cove Lakeside Resort
wow! way too much drama….under the circumstances I would do a Destination Wedding.
If you feel you will regret having your parents not attend your wedding, I would suggest you try to approach them one more time. Have you sent out invites yet? That might be enough to broach the conversation (by seing how they rsvp)
I wish you the absolute best.
I just read your other thread….seconds thoughts: you should do the wedding that you had planned, invite your sis and not him, invite your parents of course…do not negotiate…do what you want…in fact if it were me and things were this bad I would be taking a honeymoon right away. Try and not get drawn in to their drama…focus on the good and try not to let them get you down….and go away after your wedding so that you are not around for hers….then you can tell her that
of course we are going away, its our honeymoon!….sorry you have to deal with all of this, I guess most of us have our own weird family members, me included…I have learned to NOT get involved in the drama and not negotiate with terrorists! lol 🙂 Good luck!
I have a sister in law who’s wedding is a month before mine. And get this , she doesn’t even have a ring yet. Lol and she hasnt even booked or secured a venue. So we will see… i think in the long run she will have to end up pushing the date back.her wedding is in may2014 and mine is in june 2014 and I always wanted a june wedding. So its whatever you want, I will still have the wedding I want and not worry about it. Bc ppl are going to come to see your day, and if the out of town ppl don’t show.. well that’s on them . Just enjoy your day. We are having our weddings close together, but I know one thing, it will be a totally different wedding from hers. We are doing a grand ballroom seated dinner and she is having a small intimate wedding buffet style. So the guest will definitely feel that its a difference in both weddings. But two weeks apart is pretty close. Just plan as usual but for bridal showers etc I would try to have it not so close to hers.just for the sake of travelers and taking away your moments. Hope this helps
It really wasn’t much of a choice to offer her. If she wants to protect her fiance, she must decline since you refuse to include him. They’re a social unit now, to be together forever even if you hate him.
I think you’re at a turning point in your relationship with your sister. Have you thought out how your future relationship is going to be beyond your special day? It looks like it might be coming to an end after these weddings if a reconciliation doesn’t happen.
If you want the traditional wedding, perhaps the best way to think about it and still be excited is that you’ll have your FI’s (your new) family and all your friends there! And some of your family might still come. You can catch up with the rest of your family at your sister’s wedding.
If I were a friend or family member I’d be pretty pissed if I had to travel and spend $100 on a gift and then two weeks later rinse and repeat.
@shopaholic85: ugh that would piss me off also. I would be very upset with her, but first think about it and collect my thoughts then speak to her about how I feel. Like another pp said, maybe its an idea to have an intimate beautiful Destination Wedding.
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