(Closed) My sister just got engaged and picked a date two weeks after mine!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

wow! way too much drama….under the circumstances I would do a Destination Wedding.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@shopaholic85:  Then just brush it off. I imagine you will be potentially on your honeymoon during her wedding, so you can saefyl avoid i (afterall, she’s the one who scheduled her wedding 2 weeks after yours…) Make your wedding be everything you want it to be, for yourself, and the guests who are coming to shower the two of you with love. Take this as an opportunity to slough of the negative.

If you feel you will regret having your parents not attend your wedding, I would suggest you try to approach them one more time. Have you sent out invites yet? That might be enough to broach the conversation (by seing how they rsvp)

I wish you the absolute best.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I just read your other thread….seconds thoughts: you should do the wedding that you had planned, invite your sis and not him, invite your parents of course…do not negotiate…do what you want…in fact if it were me and things were this bad I would be taking a honeymoon right away. Try and not get drawn in to their drama…focus on the good and try not to let them get you down….and go away after your wedding so that you are not around for hers….then you can tell her that of course we are going away, its our honeymoon!….sorry you have to deal with all of this, I guess most of us have our own weird family members, me included…I have learned to NOT get involved in the drama and not negotiate with terrorists! lol 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 22
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@shopaholic85:  I see why you’re mad, but I’d be more pissed if she picked it 2 weeks before yours.

Why not just say screw it and elope and show them all since everyone seems to be jerks about it?

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have a sister in law who’s wedding is a month before mine. And get this , she doesn’t even have a ring yet. Lol and she hasnt even booked or secured a venue. So we will see… i think in the long run she will have to end up pushing the date back.her wedding is in may2014 and mine is in june 2014 and I always wanted  a june wedding. So its whatever you want, I will still have the wedding I want and not worry about it. Bc ppl are going to come to see your day, and if the out of town ppl don’t show.. well that’s on them . Just enjoy your day. We are having our weddings close together, but I know one thing, it will be a totally different wedding from hers. We are doing a grand ballroom seated dinner and she is having a small intimate wedding buffet style. So the guest will definitely feel that its a difference in both weddings. But two weeks apart is pretty close. Just plan as usual but for bridal showers etc I would try to have it not so close to hers.just for the sake of travelers and taking away your moments. Hope this helps

Post # 24
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Blushing bee

It really wasn’t much of a choice to offer her. If she wants to protect her fiance, she must decline since you refuse to include him. They’re a social unit now, to be together forever even if you hate him.

I think you’re at a turning point in your relationship with your sister. Have you thought out how your future relationship is going to be beyond your special day? It looks like it might be coming to an end after these weddings if a reconciliation doesn’t happen. 

If you want the traditional wedding, perhaps the best way to think about it and still be excited is that you’ll have your FI’s (your new) family and all your friends there! And some of your family might still come. You can catch up with the rest of your family at your sister’s wedding.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Bjones107:  I don’t have a ring yet and I’m getting married in October.  Not to derail the thread but a ring is not a requirement for engagement and marriage. 🙂

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

If I were a friend or family member I’d be pretty pissed if I had to travel and spend $100 on a gift and then two weeks later rinse and repeat.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@CARA1978:  yea i understand what you are saying, but in sister in laws case, talk is cheap with her , when i see the ring , I ‘ll believe she’s getting married. Just in my opinion the ring just set the tone for me and I didnt want to plan or book anything without something on my hand , even if it was a 100.00 band. Some ppl dont care if they have a ring or not. But i do

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Bjones107:  I get where you’re coming from and you know your SIL more than I do, LOL!

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@CARA1978: I guess what irritates me about her was that she just popped out of no where with this engagment and this wedding date, and knowing my wedding was going to be in June. The first thing her mom say was ” Lord! now i have to buy 2 dresses” .And my SIL is going around telling ppl the wedding date , But she hasnt booked anything yet or paid to secure a date. And where im from, wedding venues book up like hot cakes. And the crazy part about it was , when someone asked her “fiance'” when the wedding was , he said he didnt know. So im like ummmm… wth?? I guess it just erkks me lol.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@Bjones107:  Sounds like its going to fall to pieces before you know it, LOL.

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@shopaholic85:  ugh that would piss me off also. I would be very upset with her, but first think about it and collect my thoughts then speak to her about how I feel. Like another pp said, maybe its an idea to have an intimate beautiful Destination Wedding.

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