Post # 17
I don’t see your sister being inconsiderate or rude here. She never said anything about including your guests; she stated she understood if you were too busy. All she asked was that this was something she loved and she wanted to include you on it. I don’t know your relationship; but myself would make time for my sister and her passions. Even if “I don’t get them”. Obviously you guys are different, embrace it. Go and see what it’s about; you might actually have fun and destress from the wedding. It’s just a few hours; I’m sure your guest s may want to do their own thing at times.
Post # 18
Does it have to be one event or the other? On the day and at the time of her roller derby event have guests decide whether they want to do your pre planned event or do the roller derby thing. I imagine some will stay with you and some will go with her. Prior to the roller derby event and post the event, the guests would be all yours.
If it is a matter of taking you away from your wedding events for her roller derby event, tell her that you are hosting everyone who is arriving for the wedding and you can’t/don’t want to put aside your own wedding during the actual time people are in town for it. It may be that she just hasn’t thought about what she is asking.
Post # 19
@Au Jardin: I would give her the links to a couple of local groups and tell her to have fun, but unfortunately you won’t be able to join her at a derby. No biggie for her to take a night while she’s on vacation, and if I were in your shoes, I wouldn’t really want to go either.
Post # 20
If your sister is part of a derby league, she already has plenty of help with setting this up. It is really common to spend a practice with the local league when traveling. I’m sure it’s not the first time they’ve hosted an American. I say let her deal with it, ask her to do it in the time after the wedding in case she does injure herself.
Post # 21
@Au Jardin: In that case just let her go to her rollerderby thing and plan something else that everyone wants to do. If it means she misses out on a group outing then that’s her choice! That time is not about her so your visitors will be wherever you are. It doesn’t even sound to me like she wants everyone else to go with her.
I have travelled in large groups before, lived abroad and visited family in Europe and it’s hard to please everyone and get everyone together. Don’t stress too much about it!
Post # 22
@2ndtime: That is good advice, thank you. I’ll encourage her to go, but I would rather host my guests while they are in town. I can in theory watch her the next time I’m in the US, but would rather not while everyone is here and with the stress of the wedding.
Mind you all please, I’m not discouraging her from going so please don’t make it seem that way, I just would rather not take part.
Post # 23
Such a bizaar request! However judging from the email you posted I don’t think she really expects you or your other guests to go participate and watch her. I think the email is more of a heads up on what she’s doing and a request to translate a few things.
I agree with @bakerella. Tell her it sounds fun and give her a few links but tell her that you won’t be able to join her because you’ve got a full plate the week before the wedding. I’d also throw in a “be careful.” I’m sure you don’t want her all banged up for your wedding.
Post # 24
@Meowkers: Yeah…I started off this post mostly because I’d rather be showing people around Paris…but since the other PP mentioned her being bruised up for the wedding…I’m now envisioning her breaking herself and ending up in the emergency room. I need to make sure she is insured abroad, cause that would be a nightmare….
Post # 25
@Au Jardin: chances are very very small that she would actually get injured. 1. she has experience doing this. 2. i’m sure she would be extra carefull because she is in a foreign country.
Please don’t over worry yourself with this. You can’t control everything leading up to the wedding. Just have to hope that people are adults and act accordingly.
I’m sure everything will be fine!
Post # 26
my opinion….is to get away and go to the rollerderby for a couple hours, it would be completely worth it! Take a break from the wedding stuff have your parents entertain the relatives for dinner if that’s possible and spend time with your sister for one night before you get married. just because i have a good friend who is like a sister in it too and being at it in person is a whole different experience than what you would think of it being outside of rollerderby.
i do think it would bond the two of you. I am so so proud of my friend in rollerderby although it is nothing i would ever do myself I love seeing her in action, doing her thing, people cheering her on, and asking her for autographs. It brings tears to my eyes when I see it cause I’m just so proud to see her being so happy in her own way. It brought us a lot closer than we ever were in fact. Just being a supporter of her is important. It might not be big to you but it is big to her espeicially since it sounds like you haven’t ever gone before.
And rollerderby is a lot of fun!!! a great time I promise. If Fiance and I can get a night out alone that’s actually one of the things we go do for fun now. It should be experienced I think.
Oh and you and your mom should watch the movie “Whip It”.
Post # 27
<— Derby girl here.
I know the problem at hand is probably long since resolved, but I just wanted to put your mind at ease. Yes, there is “hitting” in roller derby (though it’s really more like moshing than an uppercut or something.) And there is a lot of falling. But the thing is, we are taught from our very first days exactly how to fall to minimize injury. We are taught the proper stance to take the hits, so that when it does get full-contact, the possibility for injury is minimized. 😀 hope that sets your mind at ease.