Post # 1
I was really hoping to never post on this board…but this week’s events have brought me my turn on the emotional board…sigh.
So, my little sister (we’re 2 years apart) is joining the army. She was supposed to leave for basic on Monday. She’d graduate in April and be in AIT during my wedding but totally able to get a weekend pass and fly back for the day to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. Can’t imagine ANYONE else as my Maid/Matron of Honor…we were super close growing up.
Anyway, we said our goodbyes on Monday at the recruiters office as she bused out to her MEPS station. We both cried and I was pretty sad the rest of the day. Fast forward to Tuesday morning and my mom is texting me saying she can’t go…she didn’t make her weight. She has 20 days to lose a pound or two. Then she’ll figure out when she leaves again.
Saying goodbye again is not going to be easy…I don’t handle them well at all…:( The main part that really sucks is now the timing is all messed up and now she most likely 95 percent won’t be at the wedding. :'(
I’m really sad about it. I don’t want anyone else to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I can’t imagine being happy that day knowing she’s missing it. We can’t change our date…our venue is booked until December. And we are locked into our other vendors as well.
I was considering asking another one of my friends to be a bridesmaid…she had mentioned possibly being my sister’s “understudy” when it looked more likely she would be able to make it. I hate to make her feel like she’s a second choice, but she did mention it to me a while back….what do you bees think?
Alos, now I really feel pressure to get a videographer so she doesn’t have to miss anything!
Post # 3
Oh no! Maybe she will be able to make it. I’ll keep my fingers (and toes) crossed for you.
Post # 4
@kate169: Im so so so sorry to hear this. I can only imagine how difficult this is!
Do you have other Bridesmaid or Best Man in the party, how many?
If i were you I would just leave it to just BM’s and in your program put your sister as the Maid/Matron of Honor still. Everyone knows how close you are and how much it means to you and i think it would be a nice sentiment for your sister to know that she “was there” (at the wedding).
The Bm who offered to be your understuday can just help with the Maid/Matron of Honor tasks
Post # 5
i think having a backup on ypur bridemaids is such a good idea. if your sister make it to the wedding (wich it will be awesome), your friend could do something else.
Post # 6
@creativeplannertobee: Thank you! I’m going to do my best to be a good person til the wedding to rack up some good karma lol.
@Baileyh: I only have two others…that’s the only reason I’m considering asking the understudy to step in. She’s doing a reading in the ceremony already. I will def keep my sis in the program no matter what.
Post # 7
I would say, don’t get a maid of honor if there isn’t any body that you think would fill the role. Take something from your sister down the aisle with you (it can be your something borrowed), ask her to register a message for you that you will play on your wedding day or as a toast, and maybe write something about your sister being your Maid/Matron of Honor in thoughts on the program.
I am so sorry she might miss that day, I can’t imagine my sisters not being at my side on my wedding day.
Post # 8
@Hirondelle: Asking her for something borrowed is a great idea. I’m really touched by that.
Post # 9
@kate169: I think calling her your Maid/Matron of Honor in the program is a wonderful gesture. I’m sorry she won’t be their in person.
The something borrowed idea is genius. Can you set up a webcam for the ceremony?
Post # 10
@SoontobeMrsA: The webcam is an idea…not sure what kind of computer priveleges she’ll have by then.
Post # 11
Your wedding is just over 3 months away. If your sister had to defer till she loses weight, is she able to put off basic until after your wedding?
Post # 12
@julies1949: I’m really not sure…That’s what I was hoping but my mom made it seem pretty unlikely. I think she’ll do whatever she can to not have to defer…she’s really ready to go and is tired of waiting.