- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
My twin sister hasn’t spoken to me in about 6 months. I’m not even sure what I supposedly did to cause this. We’ve always had an up and down relationship and this isn’t the first time she’s stopped talking to me, but it’s the longest. I’ve never just stopped talking to her btw. The time before this one was because I put some Halloween pictures up on FB that weren’t kid friendly. She let her kids look at them anyway and got mad at me for posting them. Then a few weeks later, I commented that a dress she had on wasn’t all that flattering (in an email, not on FB or anything). She told her husband that I said she “looked like shit”. I never would say that to anyone.
So about 6 months ago, I decided to go to graduate school. I told her and she basically told me I was stupid and I would fail and that I had better hope I didn’t want kids anytime soon. That went on and she started posting passive aggressive statuses on FB. People (mutual friends) kept messaging me asking what her problem was “this time”. Somewhere in there she accused me of lying to my Fiance about my past relationships. I explained to her that she had no idea what she was talking about and he knows everything and he knows that if he has other questions, he can ask. I’m really an open book. She didn’t believe me and told me that she thought I was using him for to get through school (of which I haven’t even applied anywhere). I told Fiance all this and he laughed. My sister told me she doesn’t approve of us getting married, she likes Fiance, but not us together.
At this point, my sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor, albiet begrudgingly on my side. I had always been weary about asking her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor because she is SO opinionated and I’ve always felt like I had to walk on eggshells around her. After she said she didn’t “approve” of us getting married, I told her that I was going to have to ask her to step down from the wedding party because Fiance and I only want supportive people standing up for us. Needless to say, she wasn’t happy and hasn’t spoken to me since.
My mom and I have talked about things and she totally sees my side on things. She, too, has to walk on eggshells in order not to piss my sister off. I’ve heard some of what she has said about me and none of it is true (some of my friends and our family are still her friend on FB-she deleted me-as did her husband). I don’t understand why she would do that. I would never stretch the truth or lie about her in order to get people to “see my side” or make her look bad.
I’ve read “Stop Walking on Eggshells” and can see traits in her of BPD, but I’m hesitant to say that since I can see traits in almost everyone I meet! lol! I just don’t know what to do at this point. She has 2 little girls that I love and miss dearly. I’m just really sad tonight I guess. Thanks for reading. 🙂