Post # 1
Hey Bee’s, I am the youngest, with 2 older sisters. 23 and 26. We all got engaged around the same time. I’m thrilled for us, but I feel like it’s turned into a competition now. My oldest sister wants her wedding in the fall, same time as me, and my other sister wants her wedding a couple months before mine…So I’m starting to feel like my wedding’s not a big deal as the rest of the family is more focused on theirs. Eloping is not an option for my fiance but I know it’s also hard to expect my family to attend 3 weddings that are weeks, if not days, apart. How do I deal with this disappointment of feeling like the news of my engagement doesn’t seem special now that my sisters are engaged too?
Post # 3
@foundmyprincecharming0409: Well since there are weddings before yours, I would not worry about it. Maybe as time comes closer excitement for yours will grow. Surround yourself with friends who are happy for you. Most importantly, be happy for yourself!! Plan your wedding, PLEASE keep details to yourself to prevent overlaping/stealing of ideas and know you are about to marry the love of your life.
Also, make sure you have your own bridal shower :-p
Post # 4
Don’t let it be a competition. Just bow out. Remember that there are approximately 47,463 things more important in life than your wedding day! It doesn’t define you, and in the long run, it only matters most to you and your Fiance. You two are all that really matters :-).
Post # 5
@foundmyprincecharming0409: I know you probably don’t want to, but can you push it back to set a little distance between the weddings? Winter weddings are beautiful, after all!
Post # 6
a wedding is supposed to be all about you and your fiance, I`d say add that personal touch to the wedding that makes it your own and just keep it a secret. These small details are the ones that your guests remember. Also surround yourself with people who are really happy for you, it may be a bit of a disappointment that some of the guests will not be able to make it but hopefully the ones who you can rely on throughout your married life will be there 🙂
Post # 7
Lots of good advice here.. including don’t share your small wedding details with your sisters and surround yourself with people who are happy for you. Sure, share the big details, colors, locations, etc. But if you have a unique guest book or favor idea keep it to yourself.
I’m just now preparing myself for something similiar. My FI’s brother got engaged last night and their engagement is already better received then my FI’s and I was. We got engaged too fast (9 months in,)and are we ready for marriage (we are in our 30’s.) Future Brother-In-Law and his future wife have been dating 16 months and are in their early 20’s.
Anyway. Good luck and PM me if you want to vent more!
Post # 8
I understand where you are coming from completely! My sister got engaged before me but my Fiance had a date picked before he had officially proposed. When she got engaged she picked a date that was only two months after my desired date. Long story short I ended up moving my wedding to almost a year later. Honestly it was the best decision I could have made. Now my sister gets to do her wedding and I get to help and get ideas and experience all while learning what not to do when my day comes. It’s definitely hard when siblings get engaged close to one another but everyone here is giving great advice. Find something special to set your wedding apart, and if possible and if you are willing to do so, moving the wedding date by a few months or so may not actually be a horrible idea.
Post # 9
Wow, what a difficult situation!
Just a thought…since you’re still 1 1/2 years out, have you thought about moving your wedding? I think you’re right that your whole family won’t be able to come. If you move it 6 months or so, I think everyone will have time to relax and get excited about another wedding. I know it’s not ideal, but I would definitely not want to be the third family wedding in a row.