(Closed) my sisters are so critical :(

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Ugh. They sound like these two awful, bitchy aunts I have. If they’re not involved in weding planning, then I would invite them for a coffee amd show them some stuff you have already decided on for your wedding (eg-fascinator, decor for venue etc) to suss out what their reaction to various aspects your wedding will be.

If they’re nice and supportive then all is right! If they’re rude and bitchy then calmly remind them that it’s not acceptable to make fun of others’ tastes and that if they can’t respect you then they shouldn’t bother coming to your wedding. If they say they were only joking tell them you don’t find if very funny and that it’s very hurtful to others, even if they don’t realise it. I’m sorry you have to deal with people like this and although it might sound drastic they’re going to want to be there for you on your big day so they’ll proably cut back on the snark. Or just, y’know, save it for talking about you behind your back. 

I really think getting a sense of whether they’ll be rude is important so they don’t upset you on your big day. 

Best of luck! 

Post # 5
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847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@geekchick:  Awww:(. I’m sorry to hear that. I am sooooooo goad I don’t have any sisters, only 1 incredibly chilled (mostly) big brother. I teach five year olds for a living and lots of the posts on weddingbee sound a lot like adult versions of what goes on in my classroom! I wish there was a time out zone for grown ups, but sadly not. Strategising and information gathering coffee meetings are really all I got, so maybe prepare a speech for when things inevitably get heated? I hope everything works out for you, I really do. 

Also, sorry if I’m not making a lot of sense right now, I’m a little drunk. 

Post # 6
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427 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@geekchick:  Oh dear. That sounds terrible. Luckily you have 1 nice sister though who will no doubt support you?

Definitely prepare yourself for worst case scenario, refuse to be surprised by their bad behaviour and that takes a lot of the sting out of it. I 100% echo everything BrideieBea said about the coffee meeting too.

 

@BridieBea:  haha you made me laugh out loud saying that weddingbee dramas sound like your classroom, very funny, very true. Also you are a little drunk, hahahaha. That is probably a lot funnier to me because I’m in Australia so it’s 9am here.

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