Post # 1
I got engaged last June, and asked my sisters to benefit bridesmaids a few months afterwards. My wedding is August 27th (eek!).
One of my sisters gained a lot of weight in the last year, so she made it clear that she was not going to order her dress until the last possible moment, which she did. They both ordered their dresses in June, and have had them since early July. I assumed they were all set.
Yesterday, I learned that they didn’t actually try on the dresses until, well, yesterday. They don’t fit and look terrible. One of my sisters is refusing to wear hers. I’m afraid it is too short notice to have them altered, or even to order new ones.
Any ideas for options here? It’s so frustrating- I was trying very hard to let them be adults and take care of things themselves without nagging, and this is where we ended up. My sister actually blamed me for it!! “Well typically you are supposed to order dresses 6 months in advance and you didn’t give us enough notice to do that.” Which is absolutely untrue!
Post # 2
Two options- 1. They can suck it up and wear the dresses or 2. All of you go shopping and buy something off the rack. Bitching about it now doesn’t solve anything.
Post # 3
Sashley : I think they will have to buy off the rack.
Post # 4
Sashley : Do they each own another dress that would work well enough for your wedding, that they could wear instead?
Post # 5
I would look into rent the runway! It would likely be cheaper than buying a new dress off the rack.
Post # 6
Sashley : Your sister’s comment makes absolutely no sense. She thinks the dress would’ve fit better if she’d ordered it sooner? Or that ordering it sooner would’ve allowed for alterations…but she didn’t try the dress on until a month after she got it?
“Typically when I win a game of darts you’re supposed to high five me, and pizza has pepperoni on it, so of course Purple Turtleneck, it’s all your fault.” Crazy talk.
Post # 7
Try vowtobechic.com for bm dress rentals.
Post # 8
Try department stores in your area
Post # 9
Call a regular tailor. You have three weeks,unless the alterations are major you still have plenty of time, seems possibly more likely your sisters won’t want to pay.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2018- Stan Hywet Gardens
Buy off the rack in a similar color. It’s one day, focus on the more important things!
Post # 11
I think it depends a lot on how ill fitting they are. Is it like, a little too tight but with some shapewear and a little tailoring we’ll be in business, or wow this dress is 4 sizes too small, her thigh won’t fit in it nevermind her booty?
If it is the former there is totally time to fix it to the point where they will feel great. If it is the latter, I am so sorry bee, what a shitty situation!!! I’d be pissed.
Post # 12
Can you post a photo of the original dress? And are they both in standard “misses” sizes? Maybe we can find some off the rack alternatives.
Post # 13
3 weeks if plenty of time for alterations, if you can find a seamstress. Otherwise, I’d go buy something off the rack.
Post # 14
I would talk to a tailor before stressing out too much. I was recently a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding and I wore a dress that I ordered before I knew I would be 8 months pregnant at the time of the wedding. I was growing so fast that they had me get alterations less than a week before the wedding. I know it’s not the same situation but I do know the stress of wondering if there would even be enough material to let out. But…it can be done!
Post # 15
They sound like brats. They should go to a tailor or seamstress ASAP and see if anything can be done. If that doesn’t work, maybe if they get the same dresses in a similar color & style it will look like they’re purposefully mismatched from the rest of your bridesmaids?