(Closed) My SO and I started looking at venues!!! Any Advice Bees?

posted 5 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014


LadyAprill: I had a really hard time with venues,i booked 3 and they all fell through for 1 reason or another.

what i would say is see if you can go down and have a peek when it’s set up so you can get an idea of how big the place is and how many it can realistically hold.

Post # 3
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

LadyAprill:  I’m planning from afar so I won’t even get to actually SEE the venue in real life until the wedding… but I accepted the fact that I had to be okay with that.

So that said, I’ve been stalking blogs and looking at other wedding photos at the venues I’m considering and my mom is checking them out/booking them for me.

Venue has been the biggest stressor for me as well!

Post # 4
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We’re having a long engagement (over 2 years), but we started looking at venues about a month after getting engaged.  Venues book very quickly in New England, plus I’m a type-A, everything must be planned well in advance type of person. Also, with such a long engagement, it helped to make the wedding feel real to have a venue and date.

I’ll admit, I had been browsing venues online for years before getting engaged, and we ended up choosing the one that has been my favorite for a long time.  Once engaged, my Fiance and I looked at venues online and then made a list of the ones we wanted to see in person.  After visiting several places, we narrowed it down to two.  We went back to our top two with my parents (they’re paying, so we wanted them to be involved), and really tried to imagine the entire wedding day there.  Both are absolutely beautiful, but one of them just felt right.  It felt like us and it has all these little touches that speak to who we are as individuals and as a couple.<br />

My best advice is to only look at places that are within your budget (you don’t want to fall in love with someplace you can’t afford!) and from there go with your gut.  Have a good idea of the overall feeling you want for you wedding, and then I’m sure one of them will jump out is being the perfect fit.

Post # 5
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

TGold:  I’m in the same boat – long engagement but looking about a month or two into the engagement. We have a lot of guests from different states and countries, so want to lock in the venue at least a year in advance, so it makes sense to look as soon as possible, and relax during months 12-6! 

Post # 6
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

ms-tea:  Yup, we’re doing the same thing!  Our family and friends are spread out all over the country, and a few of our closest friends will be traveling from international locations, so we really needed to get everything set early!  For the past 6 months we haven’t had to do any serious planning, mostly just me creating Pinterest boards, but we love having a set date to look forward to. Once we get about one year out from the wedding, we’ll start booking photographer, caterer, etc.<br />

Post # 7
4949 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

LadyAprill:   We started looking at venues within a month of our engagement.  We had narrowed our date down to two months we liked, and we found out what weekends our family was available, then our photographer, and then we began looking at venues seriously.  We looked at several online and one really stood out, we visited and booked it.   We knew it was the one because there were many photo opportunities both inside and outside, and because the venue is so pretty we don’t have to do much decorating beyond centerpieces, and the food is over the top wonderful.  We booked it 13 months ahead, and aside from a few “wish we had eloped” moments (not venue related!!) we have not second guessed our choice.  Now that we have hired a DOC, my stress level is way down.  LOL  

Think about photos, the food, and the sort of atmosphere you want for your guests on the big day.  And preferably a coordinator you can work well with.  

Post # 8
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We had/are having a 22 month enagement, and we began looking right away. We were pretty flexible on our budget, but we wanted to save as much as we could at the same time. We made a list of things we wanted and looked at venues after that.

Things we wanted included :

-indoor reception, outdoor ceremony

-there needed to be plenty of restrooms.. no porta-potties for us!

-free to bring in our own alcohol/caterer

-plenty of “extra” room to play around with so we could have “extras” [dj, dancing, photo booth, candy buffet, ect]

-chairs/tables included

-allowed to decorate

-allowed candles

The venue having a bar area and kitchen were a bonus.


All in all, we didn’t get a “perfect” venue, we will be doing alot of DIY and doing alot of things by ourselves, but I think it’ll totally be worth it.

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