- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
He also doesn’t know what “A year from now” means. This is really just a waiting rant. My apologies!
Background: Valentine’s Day this year the SO & I had a conversation about our future. Wanting to know where we stood he asked what I would say if he asked me to marry him “tomorrow”. I said I’d say yes but he’s a wimp for asking. He asked what I would say if he “hadn’t asked a year from now”. I clarified that he meant on Valentine’s Day 2014 and said “We would have had a conversation about what the hell you were waiting for LONG before then.” Since then, we’ve had some vague timeline talks that all have us getting married in early 2015 at the latest with an engagement of about a year.
OK… So today… I’m applying for a job that won’t give me insurance for SIX MONTHS. SO and I were discussing the possibility of filing for a Domestic Partnership so I can be on his insurance. This is the conversation that ensued (with both of us laughing, for the most part):
SO: “I know it’s not as good as putting a ring on it.. hahaha”
Me: “It is NOT as good and it is NOT a replacement… bratface.”
SO: “No no… we’ll do it within a year from now.”
Me: “Wait. What? A year from NOW?”
SO: “Well I think of ‘a year from now’ as before the end of calendar year 2014”
Me: “So now you’re saying not within 12 months of NOW, but before 2014 is over?”
Me: (silently freaking out)
He started to say something about needing to save and I just told him to shush. I didn’t want to get into a fight about it but, also, I don’t like hearing about him saving for my ring. It just feels weird.
Later in the car I couldn’t take it and asked him what he was going to say before I cut him off. Long story short, he was talking about the WEDDING, even though the conversation had started about “putting a ring on it” and getting engaged. He thinks we should get MARRIED in 2014 and was going to talk about saving for the wedding. I reminded him about our “I need a year to plan a wedding” conversation and he replied “Well… guess I better propose soon then, huh?”
My SO is a bratface who doesn’t know what words mean! 😛 I swear we are almost always on the same page… we just rarely use the same language and it leads to really weird miscommunications!