(Closed) My SO has a disability, does anyone else?

posted 9 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

@miss.wiggums: I only have one friend who is partially deaf so I cannot say I’ve experianced this but I just want to say I’m so sorry that people were so cruel to you and your SO. I cannot imagine being mean just because someone was deaf. That seems so incredibly strange to me.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Neither DH or I are disabled, but I wanted to say that I’m so sorry that happened to you. That just doesn’t make any sense to me whatsoever. How can people be so ridiculous?! That just makes me so angry!! ((hugs))

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

DH and I are not disabled. That being said he and I used to attend Deaf club when we lived in michigan. I grew up with neighbors who were deaf and I never took it as a disablity. I can’t imagine the pain it is causing you and your SO but remember you love him and that is all that matters. Family will either come around or they won’t. Also with your “friends” perhaps they don’t understand how he makes you happy, but it breaks my heart to think they can’t support you. I hope things get better for you and send big (((hugs)) your way.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@miss.wiggums: My SO is also deaf. He doesn’t sign because he has about 15% of his hearing and reads lips. We communicate just fine at home, but it does get difficult to impossible when we’re out, especially in noisy restaurants. 

I can relate because my mom disapproved of me dating someone deaf. She passed away before she got to meet him so she’ll never know what a wonderful man he is. I’m so sorry that your friends and family have been so cruel. :/ 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@miss.wiggums: That’s absolutely terrible.  Your friends should be supportive.  You said you have been friends since you were 10 years old, so they should know that this disability has ALWAYS been a part of your life in some sort of way.

I don’t understand why it’s such a huge deal because someone is deaf. Would they rather him be a drunk, drug addict or abusive towards you?  Sigh.  People disgust me.  I’m seriously appalled and angry for you two!

I’m glad you found someone that makes you happy and that you love.  I wish you two the best of luck.  Don’t let anyone ever bring you two down.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My ex sister in law is deaf and her husband is not… totally normal to me.  And their kids are bilingual! 😉

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

This is awful and I don’t understand it. There are so many ways that we, as humans, treat people badly – but treating someone poorly because of a disability is just horrible. My only thought is that sometimes people act strangely with things they aren’t familiar with, out of sheer awkwardness. In any case, I say you shun whomever treats you or Fiance badly and embrace better people into your life.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sorry your friends were such jerks. I haven’t experienced anythig like this before, but I think it’s great that you guys ended up together and you have such great experience in the deaf community. Because culturally speaking, deaf people do grow up a little differently, and experience things differently as well. I took ASL in highschool for two years and the deaf people I met were so funny. Plus I love the language itself, it’s so expressive, and beautiful to me.

You guys have eachother, keep your head up!!!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

My three year old daughter is a unilateral below the knee amputee due to a birth defect.  Yes, people are cruel and absolutely rude.  Here is the run down of some of the gems I have heard come out of people’s mouths.

“Did you take drugs when you were pregnant?  Is that why she is like that?”

“I would be so pissed off at my parents if they amputated my foot.”

“How does it make you feel that she will never find a man that will love her?”

“Is there anything else wrong with her?”

So yes, I understand the frustration.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Interesting I had a friend in school that was deaf, she signed but also read lips and good hear a bit if you talked really loud, She could talk as well her voice just had the typical deaf tone to it. She was just part of the group and nobody treated her different. She used to teach us sign language it was awesome. 🙂

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have a lot of Deaf friends and I am very involved in the community . Sometimes when I have had functions where I “mix” friends, my signing-impaired friends have made some audist comments or have just been ignorant… I havent lost many friends over it as sometimes it is just a good opportunity to educate people (sometimes they really just dont know any better! -ie: How do Deaf people drive?!)  Stay strong , and forget those that aren’t as welcoming. surround yourselves with people that you and you SO want to be around.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ugh, people make me sick. No one deserves to be treated like that. I’m going to have to come back to this because I am so aggravated by the behavior of your former “friends”.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@miss.wiggums: wow that is ridiculous.. just because he is deaf?? they should accept him because you accept and love him.. that’s all that matters.. people are so shallow! i’m glad you found out who your real friends are, or i guess aren’t!!
i’m sorry you had to experience that!

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