(Closed) My SO of 6 years broke up with me.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you need a clean break. 18 + 6 = 24 which is still young. But I know the feeling of losing a potential future bc I had 2 broken engagements before getting married. 

Post # 77
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2432 posts
Buzzing bee

Please consider using some time to figure out who you are as a woman and a person.

Connecting at age 18 comes with a huge chance of being too young to be fully aware of who you are and what you want for YOURSELF, with no one else involved in your decision making.

Do you have the ability to support yourself? Every woman should.

Someone has mentioned that you may have dodged a bullet, and that is the truth. 

Do what you need to do to become YOUR BEST SELF. You deserve it!

Post # 78
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Helper bee

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WannaBeABride:   I was in the EXACT same situation as you at age 23.  I remember sitting in bed, crying, thinking things would NEVER get better, that I would NEVER meet anyone as good, and I would NEVER get married.  I stared at my phone waiting for him to text me, I would see movies that reminded me of him, or hear a song, or think of a stupid joke, and i would want to text him.  I was so depressed. I had lost contact with a lot of my friends because I had invested so much time in my relationship, and in turn lost a lot of my identity.  I moved back home for a while and my mom told me to stop the pity party and start working on ME – GREAT advice.  

The best thing I ever did was invest in myself, I went back to school and I got a Master’s degree.  I got super fit and started working out like a beast.  I started personal training as a side job.  I started running, marathons.   I reconnected with old friends, gained a ton of others that I met  through different activities. I became extremely social and fun I got an awesome job and I was really happy with myself. For the first time in my life I actually didnt care about dating anyone, I became a person people wanted to be around – this all seems so Oprah by the way. 

When I least expected it, I met my fiance.   I love him to death – but we are both very independent.   

My honest advice, DELETE and BLOCK his number or change yours.  Go out and DO SHIT!   You will meet people. It could be book clubs, pottery, join a new gym, start playing sports, join crossfit, learn magic, start cycling volunteer with children .. there are a million things you can do that could be challenging that you could really enjoy.  You will meet cool people who also like to do the things you do.   You will meet someone else.  My fiance and 100% COMPLETELY Different than the guy I was dating. The type of guy my old loser self would never think I could get.  

Invest in yourself, Find out your idenity, and maybe you will realize that the type of guy you are supposed to be with aligns better with your new more independent self.   Honestly. it works! 

 

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