Post # 1
My SO’s cousin is getting married in April. He and his cousin (female) were very close. About two years ago they got into a stupid argument and she started ignoring him. At any family events she comes to say hello to his parents and siblings but completely ignores him and he basically does the same.
Even though this was occuring, we still went to her engagement party and gave a gift (which my SO handed to her fiancee because she basically just ignores the both of us and continues to act so childish). My SO knows she is a b**** but just went for the sake of it being family. SO was also offended that he never got a thank you card for the gift he gave them (although she didn’t send any thank you cards so it wasn’t just him…)
The other day we got an invitation to the wedding. My SO finds it ridiculous that she even sent him an invitation and plans on not going. He said he is 100% not going. His father told him that it will cause a big problem with the family if he doesn’t go. I told him he should just go for the sake of it being family and so he doesn’t offend his other relatives. I don’t want him to regret not going and I don’t want it to cause any problems…. but I could definitely see why he doesn’t want to go. In the end it is up to him so I wont tell him what to do anymore. But I want to know…..
Do you think he is right in not going or should he just suck it up and go?
Post # 3
@Stranger516: I wouldn’t go. If they haven’t spoken in two years, why bother. If he’s close with this cousin’s parents, hi might want to go for their sake, but if not, I don’t blame him for skipping it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I think he’s perfectly within his rights to not want to go.
Post # 5
I think he should go out of respect for his Aunt/Uncle.
Post # 6
@Stranger516: Don’t meddle – let him make the choice, it’s his family.
Post # 7
Maybe he could just make an appearance to say hello to his aunt and uncle? His wedding gift could be a book on manners.
Post # 8
@Stranger516: I wouldn’t. And if she hasn’t spoken to him in 2 years, I’m guessing she really doesn’t want him at her wedding either and was forced to invite them for her parents.
What would him going help? Maybe that he’s the bigger person, but she’ll probably see it as him trying to ruin her wedding day by being there. If he doesn’t want to go, support him. He did make the effort to go to her engagement party.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t go. I don’t allow people to trample on me and try to force me to do things I don’t want to just because we’re blood related. Anybody who treats me badly or tries to push me around (family or not) can kiss my ass.