Post # 1
I was just reading a dress thread where the bride had photos of multiple different styles of dresses. I showed SO the first dress which was a ball gown and asked what he would think if I wore it. He said No he didn’t like it. I then showed him the second dress which was a mermaid style and he said sure he liked it.
I asked him what he wanted to see me in and he proceeded to cover his hears and La La La to himself. I tried to ask him what he would want to see me in and he plugged his ears and said “Don’t tell me Don’t Tell me! He told me he doesn’t want to know anything. I think it is so cute that he has no desire to know anything about my dress. For now my dress is just a figment of my imagination and I haven’t even tried any on because we have yet to get technically engaged. If he wanted to see it I would absolutely take him dress shopping with me but he’s very traditional so that won’t be happening.
Did your FH want to see your dress or was he adamant against knowing anything about it?
Post # 3
DH was adamant about not knowing anything at all – he didn’t want to know how I was wearing my hair, what my shoes looked like, etc. Oh well!
Post # 4
@Linz1231:Did he ever accidentally see anything? I know I would never be able to NOT show SO my shoes. I’d want to prance around home in them very badly.
Post # 5
I ended up showing him my shoes, just because I wanted him to take a picture of them for me.
In terms of the dress, no. The only photos were on my cell phone, and everytime he touched it, I made sure he knew not to peek!
Post # 6
I was very unsure of my dress after I picked it up. I would have loved for Fiance to look at it and give me feedback, but he refused. He knows where to find it and he said he never even peeked at it.
He did see my shoes and me after my make-up and hair trial, though, because I made sure I showed him!
Post # 7
I actually wanted Fiance to go dress shopping with me since I trust his opinion more than anyones but he didn’t want to go (moreso because he would find it boring, not because we’re traditional). I did show him pictures of me in the dress since I wanted to make sure he thought it looked as nice as I did (and he does!).
Post # 8
So far, neither of us want him to see the dress. Hair trial? Yeah sure, he’ll probably see me after since we live together. Hell, he might even be there since a mutual friend does my hair. Shoes? I’m wearing flats. He can’t tell the difference in any of my shoes anyway. But for whatever reason, we are both being very “traditional” about the dress. It’s kind of odd. We aren’t that traditional about anything else. He knows what styles I like and think look good on me, but he really won’t have a clue. 🙂
Post # 9
How do these dang men avoid peeking? If SO was hiding his outfit from me I would have a severly difficult time not peeking!
I think the reassurance would be what I want most. It would be releaving to know that he liked it and thought you looked pretty in it.
Post # 10
My Fiance would like to see the dress but I want it to be a complete suprise. Word of advice though, if you are showing him pictures of the dress on someone else you wont get accurate responses from him, for all you know he may actually love to see you in a ball gown but just can imagine it till you are actually wearing it
Post # 11
@bells:That is very true. I don’t even really know what i’m after yet so who knows what he’ll think. I will try to keep that in mind.
I thought you wrote “neither of us want to see the dress.” It made me wonder why you disliked your dress so strongly.
Post # 12
My Fiance is just like yours. He does the same thing every time I start to talk/look at dresses. He’s so afraid it’s going to get ruined for him! But on the same note, he’s 100000% sure I chose Maggie Sottero’s Adorae – he knows I tried that dress on, but he’s convinced that it was the “not anything i imagined” dress that I chose (I wanted a big princess ballgown). He’s so sure that he knows, that he’s convinced it doesn’t matter what I say now. SOs can be so cute sometimes!
Post # 13
My Fiance doesn’t want to know anything at all. We actually have my gown displayed at one of my stores and I pointed the dress out to him the other day. We were walking a ways away and I said the dress we have displayed right now is my current favorite and he said it looks really good from a distance, so I am pretty sure he likes it :):) Thats as much he is going to know until the day of!
Post # 14
@MsBrooklynA: Mine’s the same way!! It drives me crazy actually. He’s the person I share everything with…so when he won’t listen to me talk about dresses, tell me what he likes, or look at pics I show him it drives me up the wall! lol. I like your perspective though, it’s kinda cute that they don’t wanna ruin the moment. 🙂
Post # 15
I decided not to show him my dress. Sometimes I feel tempted to show him, especially during the time when I was having second thoughts (I wanted his opinion). The dress is in our home already, but he can’t see it.
About choosing a dress, all I can say to you is that it’s your choice!! I’m pretty sure that no matter what dress you choose, your FH will think you look beautiful 🙂
Post # 16
My FH definitely wants to be part of the decision with my dress and I’m glad because like so many of you, I usually value his opinion! Plus, I really want to make sure I end up with a dress that HE likes too, since he’s the one who has to marry me in it! (Plus, he’s probably going to be the one paying for it!)