(Closed) My SO will not listen to me!

posted 11 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
3060 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

DH was adamant about not knowing anything at all – he didn’t want to know how I was wearing my hair, what my shoes looked like, etc.  Oh well!

Post # 5
3060 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I ended up showing him my shoes, just because I wanted him to take a picture of them for me.

In terms of the dress, no.  The only photos were on my cell phone, and everytime he touched it, I made sure he knew not to peek!

Post # 6
1258 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I was very unsure of my dress after I picked it up. I would have loved for Fiance to look at it and give me feedback, but he refused.  He knows where to find it and he said he never even peeked at it.

He did see my shoes and me after my make-up and hair trial, though, because I made sure I showed him!

Post # 7
6377 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I actually wanted Fiance to go dress shopping with me since I trust his opinion more than anyones but he didn’t want to go (moreso because he would find it boring, not because we’re traditional). I did show him pictures of me in the dress since I wanted to make sure he thought it looked as nice as I did (and he does!). 

Post # 8
3993 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

So far, neither of us want him to see the dress. Hair trial? Yeah sure, he’ll probably see me after since we live together. Hell, he might even be there since a mutual friend does my hair. Shoes? I’m wearing flats. He can’t tell the difference in any of my shoes anyway. But for whatever reason, we are both being very “traditional” about the dress. It’s kind of odd. We aren’t that traditional about anything else. He knows what styles I like and think look good on me, but he really won’t have a clue. 🙂

Post # 10
5165 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My Fiance would like to see the dress but I want it to be a complete suprise.  Word of advice though, if you are showing him pictures of the dress on someone else you wont get accurate responses from him, for all you know he may actually love to see you in a ball gown but just can imagine it till you are actually wearing it

Post # 12
10972 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance is just like yours. He does the same thing every time I start to talk/look at dresses.  He’s so afraid it’s going to get ruined for him!  But on the same note, he’s 100000% sure I chose Maggie Sottero’s Adorae – he knows I tried that dress on, but he’s convinced that it was the “not anything i imagined” dress that I chose (I wanted a big princess ballgown). He’s so sure that he knows, that he’s convinced it doesn’t matter what I say now.   SOs can be so cute sometimes!

Post # 13
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

My Fiance doesn’t want to know anything at all. We actually have my gown displayed at one of my stores and I pointed the dress out to him the other day. We were walking a ways away and I said the dress we have displayed right now is my current favorite and he said it looks really good from a distance, so I am pretty sure he likes it :):) Thats as much he is going to know until the day of!

Post # 14
707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

@MsBrooklynA: Mine’s the same way!! It drives me crazy actually. He’s the person I share everything with…so when he won’t listen to me talk about dresses, tell me what he likes, or look at pics I show him it drives me up the wall! lol. I like your perspective though, it’s kinda cute that they don’t wanna ruin the moment. 🙂

Post # 15
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I decided not to show him my dress. Sometimes I feel tempted to show him, especially during the time when I was having second thoughts (I wanted his opinion). The dress is in our home already, but he can’t see it.

About choosing a dress, all I can say to you is that it’s your choice!! I’m pretty sure that no matter what dress you choose, your FH will think you look beautiful 🙂

Post # 16
36 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012


My FH definitely wants to be part of the decision with my dress and I’m glad because like so many of you, I usually value his opinion!  Plus, I really want to make sure I end up with a dress that HE likes too, since he’s the one who has to marry me in it!  Laughing (Plus, he’s probably going to be the one paying for it!) 

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