- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
My Fiance and I have been together for 13 years. I have three kids, one daughter (26) and two sons (24 and 18). I asked my daughter to be a bridesmaid as soon as we decided to get married. I was a bit surprised (and touched) when my Fiance wanted my oldest son to be one of his groomsmen, but I was a bit worried about leaving one child out of the wedding party. In addition, I am very close to my youngest son so I really want him to walk me down the aisle. He will also be doing a reading as he’s an extrovert and will shine in this capacity.
I’m thrilled that my children are going to be a big part of our day, but this does create a problem; my father. I don’t want to hurt his feelings by my giving this traditional role to my son instead of him. (The first time I was married it was a civil ceremony, so he did not get to do this.)
I am looking for ideas on how to honor/incorporate my father, or maybe even all of our parents (my mother and father, and FI’s mother, his father has passed) so that my father isn’t hurt. We’re getting married outside (weather permitting) and I could have him walk me from the patio to the point where the aisle begins and then hand me off to my son. But then what to do with Dad at that point? He still needs to be seated at the front. I’m not 100% sure that there is enough space to make the aisle wide enough to accomodate three abreast, but that would probably be the easiest solution.
Another idea I’ve consdiered is to incorporate a rose ceremony of some sort, but generally these are done for the mothers and not fathers.
I’m not sure if this idea would help solve the problem, but I’ve considered displaying wedding photos of both of our parents and grandparents on the guestbook table.
I’m open to creative ideas. Help!