(Closed) My Soon to Be MIL is going to wear White !?!?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I personally don’t think it is appropriate and I would have no issue with telling her that. While I have been very open to many things including my mother’s dress (not to my liking at all) I would not allow something white/cream and sparkly.

I have told many people I’m willing to overlook any color except white.

Post # 4
Member
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

That’s weird.  She should know better.

But she’s the one who’s going to look silly, so try not to worry about it.  You might want to ask her if she needs a veil Wink 

Post # 5
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1866 posts
Buzzing bee

@sdub2bsben:  I think instead of your FH going about it in a round about kind of way, he should be direct with his mom and nicely (but firmly) tell her to pick out an outfit in a different color.

Post # 6
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6019 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I am back and forth about how much I personally care about a guest wearing white to a wedding. With that said, I think it depends on the gues and what it is exactly that they are wearing. This is pants suit, not a dress. While I think its a bit off that she is gonna wear white, there will be no mistaking her for the bride. I would let it go if I were you, on the day of I dont think it will matter much. And for the drama it will probably cause to make an issue out of it, it just does not seem worth it.

Post # 7
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2759 posts
Sugar bee

You can talk to her if you think she’ll receive it well, but if not…

My best friend’s Mother-In-Law wore a white dress suit to the wedding. She looked ridiculous, but nobody confused her for the bride and the day was still beautiful and meaningful. It probably won’t be the end of the world if she does wear it (: You’ll be too busy with everything else to focus on that!

Post # 9
Member
38 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Ugh. I would tell her. She is going to look like such an idiot in a bright white pantsuit.

Post # 10
Member
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think because she is the MOG she should not be wearing white. It will look weird in pictures if she’s wearing a sparkly white pant suit next to your sparkly white dress.

I would try and bring it up with her.

Post # 11
Member
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I keep seeing that the rule against wearing white is breaking down, and that as long as you’re not wearing something that could get you confused with the bride, you’re good. But all the same … WHO DOES THAT?! Especially since, as the MOG I presume there will be plenty of family pictures that include both of you. Maybe that’s how you bring it up … by wondering aloud if pictures will look bad with two women wearing sparkly white outfits standing next to each other. I mean it should be obvious when you glance at any wedding picture which person is the bride. You shouldn’t have to take a second to figure out which of the two white-clad women is wearing a dress and which is wearing a pantsuit. Sheesh.

Post # 12
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1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Not wearing white is not so you won’t confuse anyone with the bride. Everyone knows who the bride is…there is no mistaking that. I think it’s more about respect. You just don’t wear white to another woman’s wedding. Period.

Post # 13
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it’s incredibly rude for someone else to wear something like that to a wedding, especially the MOG. I personally would try to bring it up, especially since I don’t think it  would look very nice in the photos. But if she doesn’t change her mind, just know that it will reflect badly on her, and not on you 🙂

Post # 14
Member
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

The only time a white pantsuit is acceptable is when it’s being worn by one of the brides in a female same sex couple wedding. Tacky, much? Don’t stress it. She’s the one that is going to look off. Especially given that she had the extra gall to go sparkly! What is this? A 70s disco party?? lol

Post # 15
Member
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My mom wore a white lacy dress at my wedding. She just didn’t know better and I just decided not to care. Honestly it didn’t affect my wedding in the least. It sounds like she knows but loves herself in the pantsuit, just make sure you aren’t next to each other in pictures. I say don’t worry about it it’s not worth the argument!

Post # 16
Member
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I always think it’s funny when people choose to do this. I don’t think there’s ever a time when there will not be at least one person dressed inappropriately, whether it be because they don’t know any better or because they just don’t care. NO ONE is going to  confuse her for the bride, I’m pretty sure.

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