Post # 1
So, this weekend we made the trip to RBens parents place and I asked her about what she is planning on wearing to the wedding. She brought me to her room and then brought out her outfit. A SPARKLY WHITE PANT SUIT !?!?!?! A sparkly white pant suit, WHITE and SPARKLY !?!?
I didnt say anything I just smiled and was cordial and then went to find my Fiance. So to me it has always been the rule that the only one wearing white at the wedding is the bride, I dont think I am being psycho, or am i?
My dress is white and has lots of sparkle. My mom is wearing a really beautiful red dress that sort of matches the bridesmaids. I dont know what to say or do. I dont want to have an argument, I dont want to be a beezy, but I think its absolutely ridiculous that she would consider wearing white. My dad is beyond upset, and RBen is not happy either, he cant believe it but doesnt know what to say. He found a round about way to say “well i thought the bride was the only one supposed to wear white” and she replied its “Cream”, its not cream its white.
Ladies, what are your thoughts?
Post # 3
I personally don’t think it is appropriate and I would have no issue with telling her that. While I have been very open to many things including my mother’s dress (not to my liking at all) I would not allow something white/cream and sparkly.
I have told many people I’m willing to overlook any color except white.
Post # 4
That’s weird. She should know better.
But she’s the one who’s going to look silly, so try not to worry about it. You might want to ask her if she needs a veil
Post # 5
@sdub2bsben: I think instead of your FH going about it in a round about kind of way, he should be direct with his mom and nicely (but firmly) tell her to pick out an outfit in a different color.
Post # 6
I am back and forth about how much I personally care about a guest wearing white to a wedding. With that said, I think it depends on the gues and what it is exactly that they are wearing. This is pants suit, not a dress. While I think its a bit off that she is gonna wear white, there will be no mistaking her for the bride. I would let it go if I were you, on the day of I dont think it will matter much. And for the drama it will probably cause to make an issue out of it, it just does not seem worth it.
Post # 7
You can talk to her if you think she’ll receive it well, but if not…
My best friend’s Mother-In-Law wore a white dress suit to the wedding. She looked ridiculous, but nobody confused her for the bride and the day was still beautiful and meaningful. It probably won’t be the end of the world if she does wear it (: You’ll be too busy with everything else to focus on that!
Post # 8
@GroovyHippieChick: haha! I totally agree! Ask her if she wants to borrow yours!
Post # 9
Ugh. I would tell her. She is going to look like such an idiot in a bright white pantsuit.
Post # 10
I think because she is the MOG she should not be wearing white. It will look weird in pictures if she’s wearing a sparkly white pant suit next to your sparkly white dress.
I would try and bring it up with her.
Post # 11
I keep seeing that the rule against wearing white is breaking down, and that as long as you’re not wearing something that could get you confused with the bride, you’re good. But all the same … WHO DOES THAT?! Especially since, as the MOG I presume there will be plenty of family pictures that include both of you. Maybe that’s how you bring it up … by wondering aloud if pictures will look bad with two women wearing sparkly white outfits standing next to each other. I mean it should be obvious when you glance at any wedding picture which person is the bride. You shouldn’t have to take a second to figure out which of the two white-clad women is wearing a dress and which is wearing a pantsuit. Sheesh.
Post # 12
Not wearing white is not so you won’t confuse anyone with the bride. Everyone knows who the bride is…there is no mistaking that. I think it’s more about respect. You just don’t wear white to another woman’s wedding. Period.
Post # 13
I think it’s incredibly rude for someone else to wear something like that to a wedding, especially the MOG. I personally would try to bring it up, especially since I don’t think it would look very nice in the photos. But if she doesn’t change her mind, just know that it will reflect badly on her, and not on you 🙂
Post # 14
The only time a white pantsuit is acceptable is when it’s being worn by one of the brides in a female same sex couple wedding. Tacky, much? Don’t stress it. She’s the one that is going to look off. Especially given that she had the extra gall to go sparkly! What is this? A 70s disco party?? lol
Post # 15
My mom wore a white lacy dress at my wedding. She just didn’t know better and I just decided not to care. Honestly it didn’t affect my wedding in the least. It sounds like she knows but loves herself in the pantsuit, just make sure you aren’t next to each other in pictures. I say don’t worry about it it’s not worth the argument!
Post # 16
I always think it’s funny when people choose to do this. I don’t think there’s ever a time when there will not be at least one person dressed inappropriately, whether it be because they don’t know any better or because they just don’t care. NO ONE is going to confuse her for the bride, I’m pretty sure.