(Closed) My Soon to Be MIL is going to wear White !?!?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 17
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m scrolling through the comments and the phrase “sparkly white pantsuit” makes me laugh a little everytime… I’m picturing like 70s Elvis.

I guess it’s up to you. I think I’d be a little ticked to have the MOG in a sparkly white–um–outfit, but I’m also a chicken and probably wouldn’t say anything to her. I’d be more likely to make sarcastic “___ has left the building” comments when she left.

Post # 18
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride\'s residence

I agree that its more of a respect thing than a practicality — I’m pretty blase about a lot of wedding stuff but if anyone wears white (or ivory, or cream, whatever) I’m going to be silently annoyed.

Post # 19
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@GroovyHippieChick:  haha I love it! (ask her if she needs a veil)

@sdub2bsben:  If it helps my own mom had picked out an actual wedding dress as her MOB dress for mine- only she was getting it in a very very pale blush (with a train, and jeweled cap sleeves)- without having to directly tell her abso-effing-lutely not my sister and I managed to sway her into a coral colored fun dress that wasn’t an actual wedding dress. But that’s my mom. FI’s mom was really great- she asked me a thousand times about colors and what I thought of her plum colored (incredibly appropriate dress). If my mom had gone ahead and wore what she wanted, I would have definitely been upset and asked her to please not purchase it. I think you have a right to explain to her that you wish she had selected a more appropriate and less bridal color. It’s one of those things you would hope everyone would just know not to do- but then again you’ll be familiy with her soon, so you may want to pick your battles you know? 

Post # 20
33 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

definitely bring it up! That’s completely inappropriate and she should know better.

Post # 21
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know how you feel! My own mother sent me a link to a long white dress with sparkle at the bust for HER to wear to my wedding!!! I said I didn’t like the style (true), and that I didn’t like that it was white. She replied “it’s not white, it’s IVORY.” ARGGG!!! I focused on telling her the style wasn’t great so thankfully she didn’t get it! Definitely have your Fiance talk to her about it! 

Post # 22
783 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would certainly NOT be okay with this!

Post # 23
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Do these women not know that wedding gowns come in “cream” and “ivory” and that all of these are considered white and inappropriate? That would drive me nuts.

Post # 24
890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I simply told my MOG & MOB that they can’t wear RED, BLACK or BLUE but everything else is fair game :)) Because its not a funeral and its not a cocktail party and of course they can’t wear the color I am wearing. lol 🙂  Just tell her straight forward. 

Post # 25
5072 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@FutureMuniz:  LOL!  My Future Mother-In-Law is wearing black (my girls are wearing black too).  I never thought of it as a funeral.  

Post # 26
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think that it is a rule of thumb that no one wears ANY shade of white.  That being said, I think she is completely wrong.  But, don’t let it get to you if she won’t change it.  People will say that she is in poor taste, not you.

Post # 27
22 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

My Future Mother-In-Law tried something similar, but my fiance put her in her place. She is out-of-town and asked what my mom would be wearing so she could have something simimlar. Before we even got back to her with my mom’s dress, she texted us a picture of her in a white, floor-length, sleek gown. 

When my fiance asked why she had gotten it already, she replied “Well it was on sale and I just look so fabolous in it that I couldn’t pass it up!” 


She has since changed her mind and is now going with a champagne colored dress…

Post # 28
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Mother-In-Law wore a white top with a black skirt. I really wished I would have said something at the time but felt awkward when she showed me. Plus, the whole outfit didn’t look formal enough to me. At the time, Darling Husband tried to bring it up jokingly to see if she would realize it. He siad “geez mom, even I know that you are not supposed to wear white a wedding.” Her response?” But your tux has white in it.” Umm… you mean his white shirt that he is wearing a underneath a black tux? Wow.

Try and bring it up again… soon. It will be awkward but it’s gotta be done!

Post # 29
1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Im on of those people that believes an all white gown should not be worn by anyone else. If it has a pattern, I could care less. It is just in bad taste. I would mention it

Post # 30
890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@GroovyHippieChick:  LOL!!  Its funny i know i laughed when i said it too to them.  But its because our colors so those 3 colors wont go well at all. 😉  I have done weddings where the girls were in black and they came out great! 🙂  

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