- 3 years ago
I guess this is a vent, because right now I just don’t want to upset or stress out my SO, but I am SO TIRED of his mother’s antics!
I need to say that she IS a nice lady when she wants to be, but lately we’ve cut down on contact because we just cannot deal with her sometimes.
*She will CONSTANTLY ask us for money. In the great scheme of things it might not seem like a big deal, however, both my SO and I only work part-time, and most of our money goes to bills and some debt he has from his past, and we can barely afford food after paying off everything (we are trying to get rid of all his debt in the next couple of years). His mother is used to him giving him money, since before we started dating (a year ago), he would do anything to help her with getting her money, even if it meant getting in debt himself (which we are trying to sort out now). Things have changed now, and she openly admits it, saying how he now has his own household to think of, etc., but yet she still asks for money three days in a row?!?! And we gave it to her the first two times. I just keep thinking “where does all that money go, lady???”. She knows we get paid monthly and cannot afford anything expensive, yet because he got glasses, WHICH HE NEEDS TO ACTUALLY SEE THINGS, he all of a sudden has loads of cash to just give away?
*Not only that, I am fed up with the way she treats my SO. He is the second eldest of 5 children, and even though he has been very caring and tries to help her whenever he can, she treats him like utter crap! There have been times when we visit her, and she will just completely ignore us or just talk to her other children, even though we are the ones who bring her money, buy her cigarettes and help around the house. The other children are pretty much useless – 2 have mental health issues that make it hard for them to find work (not that they try), another one just uses the mother for free babysitting, and the last one goes to her house EVERY DAY and does ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Yet, for whatever reason, my SO is the one she calls stupid, useless, annoying and any other word she can think of at the time! It hurts me to see the attitude she has, but my SO just keeps brushing it off. I can’t though, I feel like crying for him. I couldn’t care less if she ignored me, but he is her son!
*And the most recent thing – she got mad at him for not telling her she had a dentist’s appointment??!?! YOU ARE A GROWN WOMAN, LADY, ACT LIKE IT! Seriously, she just blows up at him because he, apparently, was supposed to know she had an appointment and remind her of it?
Sorry for the long rant, but I just needed to let it out before I explode.