(Closed) My “special friend” will be visiting on my wedding night -what’s a girl to do?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I was going to recommend a softcup… I’ve never used one though.  Have you thought about getting fitted for a diaphragm?  Apparently they work pretty well for holding back the flow as well, and it would serve a practical purpose as a back up barrier method for your condoms.

If you don’t want to go that route, are you physically comfortable having sex during your period?  Is it just a fear of ruining the sheets/towels etc… at the venue?  Do you use tampons?  I’d just bring along some dark towels from home, some lube, and take my tampon out right before going to bed (the lube because you can be a bit dry right after taking the tampon out).  Throw the towels down on the bed, strategically position yourself, and have a nice time!

Post # 4
6112 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Shower sex works for when you’re on your period.  Preferably in the dark!  But my Fiance is not grossed out by it.

Dark towels work too.

Sorry the timing is less than spectacular!

Post # 5
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I always found softcups to be really messy that it didn’t matter if it was there or not really :/

Post # 6
2783 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Shower sex! Fiance and I swear by it during that time of the month.

Post # 7
2541 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with MissNoodles!

Post # 8
9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

That sucks. I’ve heard of softcup but have never tried it myself but hear good things. 

On another note… I hope your wedding dress isn’t a huge ball gown. I was due for a visit from AF at our wedding and that was my biggest fear because I couldn’t pee alone, nevermind change a pad/tampon because it took three of us to hold the dress up!  So a 12 hour product like softcup might be helpful there too 🙂

Post # 10
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2004

After the wedding, my husband and I were soooo tired. We had partied the night away, came home, opened gifts (because I simply could not wait haha) and by the time we made it to our bedroom, we crashed. Not sure if that happens to other people on their wedding night, but it certainly happened to us. We made up for it on the honey moon 🙂 after all, that’s what it’s for, right?

Post # 11
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@cmvmph:  Talk with your Fiance about it first. My Fiance freaks out at the sight of blood. We tried to have sex once while I was on my period and he was turned off at the thought of it once we started. It ruined the whole moment and we’ve never tried it since. It’s just an automatic turn-off for him, even if there isn’t much blood.

Post # 12
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I know you just got your cycles good, but is there any way you could take the pill again for a couple months? You would avoid your period just for your wedding night. That was my plan if the B decided to make her appearance on my day/honeymoon. 

Post # 13
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@cmvmph:  So we have the same dress AND we will both be getting a visit from her on our wedding day!  hahaha I set the wedding date specifically so i wouldnt have it on that day but of course it started getting a few days late every month and completely shifted!  I was stressing about it a lot but now i just figure there is nothing i can do about it and just go with the flow.  haha no pun intended!  as for sex on the wedding night heavy flow or not, if the mood strikes im not holding back. its my wedding night and im not letting that little brat ruin it for me! haha

Post # 14
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Here’s what I do:

I wear tampons through my period, but if I want to have sex, I take out the tampon right before. Sorry if this is Too Much Information, but… I run a little water and use my hands to wash up the area, including just inside, and insert a SoftCup. My Fiance says he can feel it just a bit, but it’s not a big deal – he can tell it’s there, but it doesn’t hurt him or really bug him. Then I take it out after sex and put in another tampon. We’ve never had any spillage or problems with this method!

However, I would NOT recommend it as a form of birth control. Not even a little bit. Even diaphragms are only 90-95% effective, which just isn’t enough for me!

Post # 15
4608 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

You can get a pill to delay your period.  I used it on vacation once before.  No idea what it’s called but you doc will knwo.

Post # 16
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i think i will have the same problem..except i’ve had my period since 6 weeks ago, non-stop! Exhausitng and nerve wrecking :(. I do not want to go to my previous doc because i am having a new one, just after the honeymoon. I have an underskin implant and that’s what’s causing this crazy periods..so on the wedding day, it’s possible i will STILL have it..sigh

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