(Closed) My Step Daughter’s Mom is a Breeder!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

That just sounds like child abuse to me chick, I’d report her.  The mother sounds like a vile piece of work.  Take it she’s on social security?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

That is sooo sad! I hate hearing stuff like that. My olders sister and her husband are going through the same issues with her stepdaughter and son. The mom has been in and out of rehab, but continues to reproduce. WTH??? So sorry you have to go through this. Good luck to you and your husband. Hopefully the daughter can learn more by both of your examples!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I agree that you should push to get her limited to supervised visitation.  I understand that your SD should have her mother in her life and have a relationship with her.. but it doesn’t sound like this woman is fit to provide and stable and healthy environment.  And how does she get by with getting shared custody but no financial responsibility?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Women like her piss me off because I gave “birth” to an Angel Baby at 34 weeks and 2 days. We had our lives planned around Moose, moved for the betterment of Moose, changed everything. Why is it that this horrible woman gets to have four babies and I don’t? It’s bs! Sorry you have to deal with this woman.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@MrsCunningham2B: Honestly, just b/c you can give birth, doesn’t mean you are fit to parent. It’s sad to me when ANY parent…mother OR father mistreats their kids. Some women don’t have a maternal instinct just like some men don’t have a paternal one. The only thing you can do is document, document, document and then go to court for either no or supervised visitation. Gone are the days when judges just automatically grant custody to the mother just b/c she IS the mother. If your Fiance feels that having his daughter around her mom is detrimental to her health and well-being, he should hire a good lawyer and take her to court.

As a parent, I refuse to send my daughter into a situation where she is not going to be cared for properly. The only way she would be going is if the sheriff knocked on my door with a court order telling me she had to go.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I KNOW it’s not politically correct to say these things, but I agree. A woman I work with recently discovered a surprise pregnancy, and it is so sad. Another coworker who is already a mom commented that the pregnant one will be buying the little picture dictionaries or baby Einstein or whatever the reading stuff is these days, and the pregnant one replied that she would NOT buy things like that because she doesn’t want her child to be smarter than she is. OMG! I am not a parent, but EVERY parent I know and what I hope for my own hopefully future children is that you want them to do better than you and give them whatever you may not have had, and here is she is basically saying she is going to consciously ignore parenting best practices for fear that her kid might surpass her someday. Hate to say it, but she’s 22, no education beyond a high school (and trust me, I have to deal with her lack of spelling and general communication skills so it shows), is in a relationship with a marginally abusive man, and she just applied for welfare today — I think it won’t take much for the kid to eventually surpass her, and for the baby’s sake, I hope my coworker grows up quickly. I feel sorry for my coworker, but it’s the attitude of not TRYING that gets me. Your SD’s bio mom sounds awful, but she is very lucky to have her father and you in her life!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Just because you have a uterus doesn’t mean you can be a mother.  Sad but true.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Your title totally made me laught. But it is a sucky situation.  Thank goodness your stepdaughter has you in her life!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@MrsCunningham2B: aww your situation is sticky…. but if she isnt paying child support, she doesnt get to see the kid… at least thats how it is in indiana… i would look into this bc it seems that your sd would be better off not seeing her until she can get it together.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@stephanie63087: Actually, that’s not true. Child custody and child support are actually two separate issues in every state. Even if she is not paying child support, she can still see her child.

That’s why it’s so important to document neglect. If the child comes back dirty and overweight after visitation…take pictures with timestamps, write it down, and when there is enough information documented…take the mom to court. OR….and this is what I suggest….refuse to let your SD go on any further visitations and leave the ball in mom’s court. I have a hunch that while she will issue a lot of threats…she won’t do much else.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Amaryllis: Wow! I can’t believe that woman. To give hope for this poor child, I will say that a good friend of mine was treated this way and she now has her Masters, graduated with honors, and is an all around amazing person.

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