Post # 32
@howtobeawife: Thanks very much for stepping up and saying that… No pun intended.
@figgnewton: Thank you too 🙂
He actually started calling me Mommy through NO pushing of my own. He always hears my daughter call me Mommy so I’m guessing he’s wanting to copy her but I always refer to myself by my name when talking to him.
Post # 33
@Tatum: Definitely not saying you’re a bad parent 🙂 Just that it’s unusual to me that he acts out so much around her along with the accumulating concerns that keep arising. His illnesses are most often severe allergic reactions (so says the doctor) resulting in sinus infections and ear infections which clear up pretty immediately with us.
Post # 34
I think a lot of people here are being way too hard on you. I think some of the things you said are definitely red flags, particularly her involvement with an abusive man and the potential animal abuse. If a person would mistreat an animal then they will probably have no problem hurting a child either. I assume she’s no longer with the boyfriend that shoved her but just the fact that she was with someone that violent and unstable shows a lack of good judgement. Other things you mentioned do seem a little petty though, like the screaming in a restaurant. All kids do that, I’d be more interested in hearing how she was dealing with him while he cried.
Ignore the rude poster who criticised you for calling him your son. That was so uncalled for and I can only assume it’s coming from someone who has a stepmom she hates or has a child of her own that has a stepmother that she hates. In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if a lot of the people on this thread are divorced or separated from their kid’s fathers because I hear a lot of resentment coming from them for no reason.
Post # 35
@kris325: I didn’t quite ddelve into what I meant by messy. I meantreturned to us with full diapers before he was potty trained and with rashesso bad they bled. They would clear up in the time he was with us but sure nough they’d be back by the tie we got him again. That didn’t stop until we brought it up in court even after telling her about it on several occasions. Her response was “I thought you guys were doing me a favor by changing him when I was running late for work.”
Post # 36
Document, document, document. Not things like tantrums, but illness and injury.
Post # 37
You guys are being so harsh with her. Obviously we’re biased when talking about people that we love, but does that make her wrong? No. And kudos to them for giving this child three parents as opposed to two. Even more love. I’m proud of her for calling this child her son. They are actually a family. And at two he’s a baby!