(Closed) My stolen future thunder…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m not really sure why some people think that their friends and family can’t be happy over two things at once? Everyone will be excited for the baby, and everyone will be excited for your engagement. Babies are born everyday and people are engaged and married everyday- these are big, exciting events, but not so earth-shatteringly unique that people won’t be able to process both at once. 

Post # 4
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I understand why you’d be a little jealous. I think it’s human nature to want attention for that little bit when you get engaged ๐Ÿ™‚ You don’t know for sure though..she could go early or late, and you could get engaged a different month. Also, if it did happen around the same time, I’m positive that you will still get lots of attention, and time for celebration. Engagements are exciting, even if there are lots of new babies on the go! I wouldn’t worry about it too much ๐Ÿ™‚



Post # 5
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I agree with ohheavenlyday, I think that people don’t have only a certain amount of excitement that has to be focused all in one direction. Also, you seriously can’t be upset about a baby that is already on the way… it isn’t like his sister intended it to happen that way! If you really think you’ll be that bothered by sharing the spotlight, maybe ask your bf to hold off proposing until after you see his family/the baby? Then you could celebrate with them at christmas when you go home. 

Post # 6
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with the other Bees.  I thought you were going to say your wedding was in July and the baby was due then, but you are saying that you MIGHT get proposed to in July.  The baby’s due date is not as easily changable as your proposal date.  So your bf proposes in June or so.  Again, multiple awesome things can happen in a family at a time.  Don’t be like that.  You’re gonna be an AUNTIE!!!!!!

Post # 9
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Mewcakes:I’d say relax.  You haven’t been proposed to yet.  It can be changed.

Post # 10
4504 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Maybe he’ll surprise you and propose early.

Post # 12
6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

This was actually my biggest gripe during my engagement so I totally understand where you’re coming from. I got engaged at age 27 and at that point, all of our older siblings were married (1 engaged), most of our friends were married or engaged already and almost every married couple we knew (friends and family) were pregnant or had a baby already. So besides our parents and my real friends (you find out who these people are immediately in this situation), no one was really excited for us. Happy yes, but excited, meh. No big deal.

I have a friend who recently got married and her situation makes me green with envy. She and her Darling Husband were both the 1st in their families to get married. None of their friends have kids yet and no one was pregnant at their wedding. She actually had the audacity to complain to me that her parents forgot her wedding anniversarry. Umm.. I hope she realizes my Dad doesn’t even remember which one of his kids got married in 2010.

So yeah, I totally feel for you and you can complain to me anytime ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Doesnt it seem like youd be stealing her thunder since shes already pregnant?  If anything Id say shes the one that should feel disappointed, because its her baby that could be possibly overshadowed by your possible engagement.  Not even definite.  Just saying, wait until he proposes, and see where you land.  And I agree with PP your family with be happy if they are going to be happy whether or not there are other events going on or not…

Post # 15
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think it’s natural for you to feel that way. We all want positive attention when we get engaged. And of course, you want to bond with his family. It sounds like you feel insecure about fitting in with them. The baby might actually work in your favor, though. Everyone will be in a celebratory mood when you visit and may even be happier for you! So try to just be happy about your relationship and happy for the family.

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