- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
My husband and I started thinking about having kids a couple of years ago. At the time, we decided that we would start trying in a few months. It didn’t quite work out — after I stopped taking the Pill, I never got a period. No period, no ovulation — no chance of getting pregnant.
What followed has been a many-month adventure, with recent highlights including an MRI test to see if I have a brain tumor (I don’t). Throughout all this, it’s been frustratingly difficult to find information on what is happening and what I should be doing about it. How do you find out what the possibilities are if you don’t know what medical terms to look for? And on a less technical level, trying to get pregnant is often a taboo subject. Only after I started opening up to my friends about what’s going on did I learn about similar experiences they’d had.
What follows is my personal story, along with any references and advice I can offer looking back on these past couple of years. Because the story is long, I will post it as multi-part series. I hope it helps anyone who may find themselves in a similar situation.
Part 1: We’re thinking about it…
In December 2014, my husband and I decided that we would soon start trying to get pregnant. However, because of upcoming travel plans, we would not actually begin until March. I was on the Pill at the time, so I started looking up whether I’d be able to get pregnant right away after I stopped taking birth control. The internet emphatically insisted that, “You can get pregnant right away after stopping regular-dose or low-dose hormonal birth control.” (WebMD)
“Great,” I thought, and stayed on the pill for another couple of months. In March, after my packet ran out, I didn’t start a new one. I did ovulation tests, but they all came back negative. To my surprise, a month later, I didn’t get a period. The pregnancy test was negative. What was going on?
Now that I knew what I was looking for, I found it: “it could also take a few months for your body to begin ovulating and menstruating on its own schedule again”. (here) It was hard to figure out exactly how common the issue is, but the general sentiment seemed to be, “no big deal, your body will probably get back to normal in a month or two.” So I figured I’d wait and see.
Lesson learned: If you’re on hormonal birth control and want to start TTC in a few months, stop birth control now and use an alternate method (condoms). You may ovulate right away, but there’s a non-trivial chance (5%? 10%?) that your cycle will take a couple of months to get back to normal.