- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I signed up for a Biggest Loser competition at my gym which started yesterday. It runs for 6 weeks, and the winner at each location (there are several) wins $250 ($20 entry fee + free tshirt). There’s an overall winner prize of $1,000 but I’m setting my goal on winning the location prize as I’ve already lost 30+ pounds and am halfway to my goal already. The location I most often go to and that I signed up with is a women’s only location but the gym itself is co-ed.
Last night I was feeling a little guilty because after my weight watchers meeting at 6 I went to the gym and was there for about 1 hour 15 minutes, I didn’t get home until about 9 pm. (I told my SO I’d be home about an hour after the meeting, around 7:45 or so). I ended up running a lot longer than I thought (which was exciting).
SO didn’t mind but I wanted to talk to him about whether we should keep one day a week or so where I come home at a more normal time so we can spend quality time together, I don’t want him to feel neglected with my intensity in the next 6 weeks at the gym (I am very competitive). He said that it’s totally fine if I come home late and he was okay with not having dinner together since he knows I’m in this to win it.
I wrote him an email today just explaining my thinking a little more (sometimes he responds better to email for emotional things so he can process rather than in the moment talks). I mentioned I just don’t want him to resent me or not communicate if he’s feeling neglected because I’m not home so much during the week (he gets home at 4 p.m., if I went home straight from work I’d be home by 5:30, but with my working out now I’m home anywhere between 7:30-9pm) and he eats dinner alone because he doesn’t like to eat that late and has lunch at around 11:30-12).
This is the response I received:
“I totally support you in whatever you do Hun, there’s no reason to feel guilty about wanting to get healthy, I am going to start back up as soon as I get my card from my insurance company. Our relationship isn’t going to weaken at all! Don’t think that. I would love it if you’re home with me to eat dinner and spend time with me but it’s ok if you’re not, I’m not going to get mad at you or anything. Like I said, I stand behind you with whatever you do, so if you want to win this thing then go and do whatever you need to do to win it!