Post # 1
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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
I just spoke to my Bridesmaid or Best Man and close family friend….I know that it is tacky to put your registry in your invite but EVERYONE I HAVE EVER KNOWN STILL DOES IT. My Bridesmaid or Best Man is telling me that it is crazy NOT to do it.. and I am telling her how tacky it is.. and that I already have it on my website… but she is like.. none of these old indian people are going to go on a wedding website.. they want the registry information in front of them. What should I do??????? I know its a no no but it has been requested (not only from her) that I make it easier for them!
Post # 3
Bee
6469 posts
Bee Keeper
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
We didn’t have a wedding website for that reason – 70% of our guests are older family members who wouldn’t make use of it. We put inserts discreetly in with the rest of our invitation suite & haven’t had any fall-outs.
Post # 4
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5497 posts
Bee Keeper
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
@jaguar: I think my main concern is to follow the rules as so not to offend anyone. But it seems like with following the rules on this one, guests will be offended (and confused). Maybe I just have to suck it up and do what you did.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
If that’s what’s done in your social circle, go ahead and include the registry info with the invite. It’s only tacky if people aren’t expecting it.
Post # 6
Bee
6469 posts
Bee Keeper
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
Your other option is leaving your registry cards with your parents – and having them pass the information on. We were going to do that, but not everyone would ring to check, especially friends, so we risked it.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
Maybe you could go for a split decision. Put a registry card in the invitations to people whom you are sure will be ABSOLUTELY DEVESTATEDLY LOST WITHOUT ONE, and forgo it for the internet-savvy. Everybody wins?
Post # 8
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5497 posts
Bee Keeper
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
@Beluga: I was considering that.. But our invites are stacked in a way so that the Registry card would be the smallest (smallest = most discreet right?!) and there would be a strange space between the pocket and rsvp card if we choose to put only in some..
Post # 9
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5497 posts
Bee Keeper
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
@jaguar: yea…….. my mom doesn’t have time for that.. she is one of those never-answers-their-phone type.. and always at work or on call or something like that.. I wouldn’t want her to be bothered…
Post # 10
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Helper bee
My opinion is that the stacking of the insert cards doesn’t matter that much, and you’re better off including it only for the people who you feel really will be looking for it. I totally know what you mean about older folks who aren’t compuer-savvy. But for younger people who are up to speed on wedding websites, online registries, etc. it might seem a little strange to put a card in your invitation telling them where to buy your gift.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
Are you having a shower? Then you can put in your registry and not feel like its tacky. I think its a regional thing. We wouldn’t put our registry info in the wedding invite, I have never had it in any invitation that I have received. Maybe put it in the invites for people that are traveling. They would be the ones to me that would worry about it the most.
Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
@EsqBride5810: the strange thing is that my Bridesmaid or Best Man is my age.. the younger people we are inviting are pretty much all ( except for 1 or 2) the same culture.. i think it might be a cultural thing? Honestly, no one would be offended..especially since we are only inviting 50 of our closest friends and family…
Post # 13
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5497 posts
Bee Keeper
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
@cincity75: I am not sure if I am having a shower.. I am leaving the shower details and bach party details up to my MOHs and BMs…
Post # 14
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270 posts
Helper bee
Sounds like you feel pretty confident you 1) need to include the registry info and 2) no one will be offended. Reading your comments, it sounds like you’ve answered your own question! 🙂
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
Things are ONLY tacky if they’re unfamiliar. If every wedding invite you’ve received has had the information on it? Go with it.
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
If thats the way its done in your circle then i think its alright to include it in the invitation. Dont make it harder on your guests if they are used to having the info right on the invite. I dont care for these wedding “rules” too much, you should just go with what works for you and your guests.