(Closed) My take on the kids at weddings thing

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 17
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I LOVED weddings as a kid… and I know my sister would agree. I think it’s unfair to not allow them to come. Normally, you can have kids meals arranged, for super cheap… and they are so cute on the dancefloor.

But, everyone will have a different opinion on this one 🙂


Also, I have to add that just because their parents didn’t make an effort to include you in their lives, doesn’t mean the joy of a child won’t add to the beauty of your day… (I love kids, though, so maybe this is just me)

Post # 18
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@edisonsgirl: I agree… not too sure many people bring their kids to their friends wedding… but yeah.

Post # 19
13094 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think too many posters actually argue that you have to either have no children or all children you know.  What I do see more often though is people saying that if you plan to tell your guests that the reception is “adults only” and they therefore cannot bring their kids, then you cannot allow some other kids to come.  If you do, you basically flat-out lied to your first guests by saying “adults only”.

Personally, I LOVE kids at receptions and absolutely all of our guests of all age ranges loved the four little kids (3-5 years old) we had at our reception.  They just really add an element of fun and family to the event!

Post # 20
53 posts
Worker bee

I guess it all depends on the type of your wedding, an outdoor or church hall wedding may be more conducive to having an “open door” policy towards children than an evening wedding in a country club or ballroom.

As a parent,  I find it much more enjoyable to attend an evening wedding without my children so that I can enjoy it myself. Adults should not have to feel guilty for enjoying an evening out without their children. The hosts of the wedding should not have to feel guilty for whatever policy they decide on concerning children, it is their wedding, and their decision. Insisting on bringing children to a wedding for a non-family member is selfish.

Post # 21
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

i agree with you completly.

i am inviting all of my 1st cousins, but not my stepdad’s neices and nephews, except 2, because i actually know them. i am inviting all of my 1st cousin’s kids, but not my mom’s cousins kids. my fiance is only inviting the kids he is close to.

Post # 22
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I completely understand the dilemma.  My fiance comes from an Irish Catholic family, so there will be *lots* of kids (some families have 5-6 kids!!).  One of the reason we chose our venue is because there is a playground…on the opposite end of the property ;P.  We will also have kid friendly activities to help reduce the odds of the dreaded “meltdown” (coloring books, cupcake decorating table for the kids instead of wedding cake).   One thing we won’t have is the candy bar.  40-50 kids hyped up on sugar doesn’t sound appealing.

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