(Closed) My Temper Tantrum…Dealing with So Much

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9687 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wish I could reach through cyberspace and give you a real life hug.  You are going through an almost unbelievable amount of stress!  There are tears in my eyes from reading all this.

I think your attitude is remarkably brave and lovely.  You have more on your plate than one person should have to bear.  And I am so, so sorry about your Mom, I lost mine in 2000 and I will never get completely over it.

You seem like a very strong person who, while being understanding of what your Fiance is also going through, is also in need of a little more of his support.  Try calmly explaining to him that sometimes you need him to be strong for you and let you lean on him a little. 

Have faith that everything will work out and all the stress you’re facing right now will turn into beautiful blessings for your life in the long run.

Post # 4
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sorry you are goign through so much. I also take “I cant do this” as meaning “US” and my Fiance takes it that way when I say it as well.

As for the financial things – you two really need to come up with a joint plan of attack (esp. if Fiance is going to soon be unemployed). Finances are a big source of stress and reason for divorce so better to take care of it now.  You also need to put your foot down when it comes to footing the bill for some of these things.  If you don’t want something you don’t have to buy it just because he does.  You guys should really sit down with a financial planner to learn to be a bit more responsible with your finances so this doesn’t spiral out of control.

Everything will work out for the best evenutally. GOod luck!

Post # 5
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46406 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You are under a lot of streess, so communication and working together are even more important than ever.

Consider checking your understanding of things he says, so you don’t make things even worse.

Do not assume what he means, ask him.

”  When you say  you can’t keep doing this what do you mean?”

Clarifying intent can prevent many a disagreement.

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