Post # 1
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Bumble bee
To date, I have tried on one dress. It was at a wedding show and was such an awful experience that I don’t want to try on any others. My Fiance was waiting outside the booth, and so I went with the seemingly helpful sales girl.
I liked how the dress looked and was excited to go out and show my Fiance. It was a bit too small as it was a sample, but I am planning to lose some weight. She made a comment about how awful the scar on my back looks and that I shouldn’t even go show my Fiance unless it was covered (yeah, because he hasn’t seen it before…) She made a point to say that only a dress that completely covers it would be okay and was also sure to comment that the dress didn’t full close.
I was so mad but at a total loss for words (unusual for me – I guess it was just unexpected). I told her to forget it, and I just wanted to leave. So I changed back into my clothes and left with Fiance to check out other booths. I started to tell him about why I didn’t come show him the dress he picked and he said, “I know, she told me you wouldn’t come out because it didn’t close.”
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! At this point, I just want to wear a sack that covers everything!
Post # 3
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4437 posts
Honey bee
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@BoxerLady: I read all these stories and have no idea how these consultants have jobs….
or friends….
There’s an obvious disconnect between their brains and mouths.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I’m so sorry for your bad experience =( I highly suggest making an appointment at a bridal shop (check reviews on Yelp for one that treats customers well!) and go try on bunches of dresses and have fun. Wedding shows are there for fast sales, and it probably isn’t the best environment for having a happy shopping experience.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
Ugh some ppl r so stupid and have zero common sense. Its ppl like that that make sterilization sound like a good idea. What an idiot. Let that roll off. Not all consultants r like that if u can even call her one, so I’d tell u go to actual bridal boutiques to try on from now on. Best wishes in ur future dress shopping experiences, theres a perfect gown out there waiting for u right now.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
What a b word! No social graces at all!
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
@BoxerLady: Oh, my! I don’t think she’s been in sales/retail for very long. But, really, who raises her daughter to speak so rudely? Really? I mean, I know I was raised in the “old ways” and I guess I’ve passed that on to my son, because we would NEVER say anything like that. I’m sorry you had such a bad experience. Umm; a scar? So what?! We all have scars. Not sure where you are, but check for local boutiques close to you. Smaller bridal boutiques (in my experience) have much softer, gentler consultants who will work hard to make you feel like a million bucks in anything you try on. THEN, you’ll be able to figure what looks good, and what you want.
Post # 8
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Honey bee
@BoxerLady: Did you mention it to her manager? I know it was at a show, but I’m sure the owner would not be happy with someone costing them business like that. Also, it may not have been someone who works for the shop, it may have been a rep hired just for the event, hopefully one that will not be hired again…
Sorry you had such a shit experience. Some people are so stupid.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
@mchitt329: @sunsetchristy: @BeeG35: @jessyrez: Thanks, ladies. Not much I can do about the scar…And to be honest, it hasn’t bothered me in YEARS but now I seem to have a complex about it. But I will wait until I lose some weight before I dare try on any more dresses!
Post # 10
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Honey bee
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@BoxerLady: Do not worry about your scar! Personally I have a few and that’s just me and part of who I am. I really love seeing brides that don’t make their dress hide their tattoos or scars.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
@Mrs Canuck: I will certainly make an appointment with a (hopefully) nice consultant next time I go. I will be bringing Fiance because I want the moral support. Even if they tell me I look like crap, I know he will say I don’t!
@HappySky7: I should have 🙁 But I was just SO mad, I wanted out of there. Usually I have such a big mouth and always stand up for myself, but I think her picking on two physical flaws that are also two big insecurities for me just shut me right up!
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
How awful! I would have been speechless too. I can’t believe she would say something like that!
Definitely schedule an appointment with a bridal salon and bring a support group of BM’s. I know for sure if a consultant said that to me and my BM’s were around, that consultant would be eating her words. I wish you good luck in finding a respectful consultant (and your dress of course) 🙂
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
@BoxerLady: Aw, I’m so sorry you had that as your first dress shopping experience. Who would actually say something like that to a customer, or another person for that matter?! I second the PP who suggested going to a bridal salon with great customer service reviews to try on dresses (even if it’s only to wash away the taint of that imbecile bridal consultant). You should never be made to feel self-conscious or less-than when trying on wedding dresses.
Just remember, your Fiance is marrying you…and that means ALL of you. So he’s going to love the way you look whether or not your scar is showing! And if another consultant ever tries to pull somehting like that in the future, punch them in the throat (I’m a big fan of this).
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
@BoxerLady: ya I understand. But try having a huge scar on ur face like I do! Don’t be self critical bec of that ho-bag! Don’t let her drag u down or she wins!
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
@mchitt329: Our battle wounds 🙂
It marks a really hard time in my life and to be honest, I can’t even picture a nice dress that would cover my entire back :S I keep trying to focus on the fact that Fiance proposed to me exactly as I am so I don’t need to change/hide anything. It’s hard though 🙁
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
@MlleFabuleux: Haha, I love this. That was exactly what I wanted to do 🙂 some people are just so mean! I’d never say anything like that to anyone.
@BeeG35: Ah, so you know my pain. It’s tough. At least you can use makeup 🙂 Scars look tough and rugged on guys, but I hate them on myself! Can’t change it though, so might as well deal with it. Luckily it’s faded a lot over the years.
@bleusteel: I’m definitely bringing my Fiance and best friend next time 🙂