Post # 1
So, I’m about half way done with my thank you notes and decided to look up what exactly I should be writing. I made a big faux pas apparently by not including what we will be using cash gifts for. I did try to include a personal note in each. Should I rewrite them or is it really no big deal?
Post # 3
I think it’s fine as long as the note was personalized in some way.
Post # 4
That’s not a faux pas. You are fine!! We didn’t say anything specific about what we will use the money for. We just said “it will be a big help towards starting our life together”. As long as the note was personal and heartfelt your guests will be very happy to receive it.
Post # 5
I made this same mistake. Honestly, I tried but “we’ll be using the money for house stuff” (which we did) sounded too off. I personally see it this way, if is a thank you note I would appreciate getting, then it is good in my book.
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s a major faux pas. If you personalize it, it’s no biggie! 🙂
Post # 7
I agree. Most people don’t even know the rules for receiving a thank you note. Perhaps they’ll just assume that you haven’t spent the money yet (if they even notice it’s missing).
I think that getting the thank yous out in a timely manner is more important to people than knowing exactly where their money went.
Post # 8
I don’t even know why this is a rule – I have never given cash for a wedding and expected an itemized list of what it was used to purchase. Your personal, timely note is what matters.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies! Dang Emily Post for making me worry. Lol.
Post # 10
I’ve never even HEARD of that!! I’d actually think it was weird if i got a thank you note from someone saying what they’re using the money for – it’s none of my business. 🙂
Post # 11
I don’t think people really want to hear what you will spend it on anyway. (“We’ll use this to buy the serving platter on our registry that you weren’t considerate enough to purchase for us with this money anyway.” or “We’re going to use the money to buy toilet paper. We’re out.”)
I think most people appreciate a hand written letter more than enough. 🙂
Post # 12
I agree with Mighty Sapphire, I actually think it’s crass to talk about what you will use the $ for. As long as you thank them I think you’re fine.