Post # 1
I understand therapy has a stigma behind it but I need unbiased opinions here… I live in a small town. Population around 100,000.
I was in therapy on and off for quite some time. I was abused as a child by both parents and siblings as well as step parents. I had it fairly rough. Not to mention I had black out episodes that would later be diagnosed as epilepsy. However, for the longest time I was bounced around the psych field and about five years ago I was one therapists prize patient, he was set on proving I was not epileptic (despite the EEG showing proof) but instead said it was psychological.
my husband swears this therapist had a crush on me. He is around 60 years old. He did help a lot with coping techniques when I was first diagnosed with epilepsy and in helping deal with my abuse as a child. He helped me get closer to my faith as well.
hoever he was also very unprofessional talking to me about other patients even going into details so I knew who he was talking about when I saw them outside of the sessions, he made remarks about them like “he’s paralyzed, what the hell can I do for him?” And things like that. He would get really angry and show his anger etc. So I left. Not to mention I just felt like I didn’t need therapy any more.
so now a year later and I’m not kidding I think I mm being followed… My husband thinks so too.
in the past two weeks I have seen him about five times at the places I go to regularly. That’s not the only thing but my husband dropped me off at the store today right? I noticed his car today. I was getting out of the car and saying bye to DH and the therapist gets in his car and just sits there. So I draw out my goodbye to dh just to wait for the therapist to leave (in the grocery store parking lot so the therapist will leave before I go in) and he never leaves. So I just go in and take my time in the store and I go to check out and 30 minutes later and he’s still sitting in his car! He waited to pull out and leave until I left the store. Once I left he decided to leave as well.
he always said in his de sessions that I was his prize patient but I was under the impression that it was because I was improving so much.
I have literally been hiding from him.
the reason is because I didn’t leave on good terms with him, the last time I left he made me feel really bad for leaving and that id done something wrong, something is really off about this guy and I kinda think maybe I should say something to his clinic about him. He’s been to the store by my house almost every morning now for the past couple weeks now so I’ve been avoiding it. I don’t know if my husband is right that he has a crush or if he just wants his prize patient back, he could never accept the fact that I had epilepsy
Post # 2
Ummmm I don’t know what the laws are like where you are but would it be worth speaking to the local police to see where you stand? Even if they can’t do anything now, it may be good to have it “logged” with them in case it goes further and you need evidence of prolonged stalking for a restraining order. I am no expert and don’t know the law so some may consider what I have said as an over reaction, but you can never be too careful. If it were me, I would pop to my local police station and see what they have to be say. Be safe. x
Post # 3
I think you need to call the police and get a restraining order on him. I don’t think that talking to his clinic will be enough with this behavior.
Post # 4
Ditto previous posters. Document everything and talk to the police. Be careful! Also, he can be reported for HIPPA violations for sharing other peoples medical information without a court order… and the fines for the are very steep…
Post # 5
oh boy…. When I wrote the post I just assumed it was unprofessionalism and perhaps he is trying to find a way to talk to me and I’m dodging the bullet…
after reading the comments now I’m wondering if I will be the next lifetime drama :-\ oh boy… How did this happen? I feel sick, I just re read my post and it reads a lot more unsettling than when I wrote it.
Post # 6
Yeah.. It does sound like a Lifetime drama. I would document what you’ve experienced and speak to the police. There is something completely off about this situation, I wouldn’t go out without your husband or a friend if possible.
It cannot be a coincidence every single time. It just can’t be.
Post # 7
I agree with PP, report it to the police, file a HIPPA complaint, and do not go out without your hubby/friend/family if at all possible. This situation is rather creepy.
Post # 8
This is incredibly scary. I lived in a town with about 40,000 people, and I RARELY saw people I knew when I was out and about. So for you to see him hanging around as often as you are…that’s bizarre. Not to mention the level of unprofessionalism he has shown in his practice. This guy is a dirtbag, and you have to protect yourself. Be careful, please!
Post # 9
Mrslovebug: That’s really creepy. Population of 100,000 isnt’ that small – you shouldn’t be just running in to him that often.
Post # 10
Coming from someone who has a similar background who was stalked by an ex boyfriend for several years. Stop it now. Call the police and HIPPA Being scared to go places out of fear is a terrible place to be. I’m sorry this is happening to you. Be safe and take action now.
Post # 11
my husband is going to take me to the police station when he gets home for lunch today and we will speak with a mutual friend about it. I am looking into HIPPA now. I didn’t want to because I’m always all about second chances, bad days and giving people the benefit of the doubt but… Not when it comes to this. Re reading my post this guy is a creep. I don’t know why I let it go for so long, I honestly don’t know what I was thinking or what was wrong with me? I’m really disappointed in myself for letting it go for so long.
Post # 12
This is totally off topic but 100,000 is not a small town, thats a small city. I live in a small town with less than 2000 and don’t even run into people I want to see that often lol. But back to the real point. HOLY CRAP that guy is scary. I went to therapy once annd it was a good experience but that is NOT right. Ive taken social work courses and I learned alot of their rules and they CANNOT do that, they aren’t supposed to talk about other patients and aren’t supposed to even form close bonds outsid eof therapy even after you leave because they’ll always have a type of “power” over you and it can lead to abuse. Seriously contact the police, contact a lawyer, HIPPA, contact whatever network he works with if he isn’t a standalone, and be careful.
Post # 12
Mrslovebug: Don’t let this guy make you feel like you did something wrong. You should not feel like something is wrong with you, and you should not be disappointed in yourself. You did nothing wrong! How were you to know that this therapist would potentially try to find you repeatedly. If this is more than just coincidence, which I full on support talking to the police about this, it is not because of anything you did. You are a victim, not the cause. Also, he may be doing this to more women or patients, so I advocate fully to report it because you don’t know how many reports this guy has against him.
Post # 13
Omg, this is very creepy and I would be terrified. Go to the police, and be careful!
Post # 14
I’m afraid that someone simply being in the same places at the same time as you isn’t enough to file a restraining order, and there is probably not much the police will be willing to do about it either. HIPAA laws have to do with the privacy governing patient medical records and while your therapist was unprofessional and gossiped about another patient, I don’t think that the details he disclosed were anything HIPAA cares about. The best you can do is document any interactions or sightings of the man, and contact the local licensing authority specifically about what he said about the other patients. Depending on this person’s credentials, there may be different standards and expectations of confidentiality; what would be considered a breach of confidentiality for a MD might not be considered problematic for a licensed social worker.
There is no law or license restriction against being weird, overly familiar, expressing anger, etc. The therapist definitely sounds weird and unprofessional but I don’t think at least from what you say, that he’s got a crush or obsession with you. Unfortunately there are weirdos in every line of work but there’s no law against being creepy or weird.