- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I see many women who are criticized on here for not being 100% happy with their engagement ring. Whether the stone be too small, not the right setting, shape or gemstone. People often like to combat the OP if she is not happy with the size of her stone (particularly if it is too small), often making comments such as “be happy with what you have,” “it is the symbolism that matters,” “you are being materialistic” “your fiancé put so much thought into it – he would be hurt.”…other times poster’s will put down large ring’s in general – saying that they assume the person’s fiance cut down on quality for quantity – (a whole other absurd, nonsensical argument unrelated to this post)
While yes, the ring may “represent” the first step in your ultimate commitment to one another – at the end of the day, it is still just a RING – a material object, not something to be worshipped or idealized. One will have to overcome MANY MORE hurdles in their life than informing their significant other that they are unsatisfied with the piece of jewelry on their finger.
Moral of the story – if you are not happy with your ring, just communicate this to your partner! I can’t wrap my head around the women who disagree and choose to keep quiet…but then again every relationship is different. Either way, I assure you there will be much more difficult decisions you will have to make in your life as a partnership and communication will be crucial to all of them. If you can’t speak up for yourself now – then when?
I would like to add that this post applies more generally to those women “within reason”…of course there are always extreme situations but then again I presume that if you are one of those “extremist” individuals your fiancé probably knew what he was getting into to begin with (and again, who are we to judge?)