- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
So, I just got done reading that whole long post about Belle2Be getting a warning after being flagged, and it made me start thinking about the nature of these message boards, the way we treat other people on them, and how we begin to take things personally.
For me, I have had back and forth discussions with people on here before, but as far as I can tell I’ve never attacked anybody personally- what would be the point? They are some random person on the other end of the internet. How is telling them they are (dumb, silly, stupid, whatever) going to do anything affective?
I will be honest with a person, and give my own personal advice, but I also realize that this site is full of people from all walks of life, and my solutions are not something that will work for everyone.
Weddings are not one size fits all. We have girls on here with huge, lavish weddings, some with intimate elopements, some who splurge on fancy reception halls and have satin tablecloths and chargers, and other girls who have their reception in the local VFW and use plastic tablecloths and paper plates.
So you think that a cash bar and a dollar dance is tacky: Well, some social circles don’t expect an open bar, but DO expect a dollar dance.
Some people think that spending $30,000 on a wedding is normal. Others think that spending $5,000-$10,000 on a wedding is too much.
ALL OF THAT IS OK! We need to realize that we can’t push our ideas of what a wedding “should be” on someone else.
And that extends to the posts that are NWR- People are going to do what is right for them, and if you do not agree, it is sometimes better to delete your reply than to get into an argument over something that doesn’t actually affect your life at all.
I just had to put my two cents in. Take it or leave it!