- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
So I was reading this thread: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/why-do-people-get-divorced and it reminded me of some thoughts I had the other week about Prenups.
I am a supporter of prenups and here are my reasons why:
1) A prenup is not, as some people say, predicting divorce, or a recipe for divorce or a sign that the couple is not committed. A prenup is an insurance policy. You don’t take out insurance on your car and then assume that it’s ok to smash into other cars! You have insurance just in case something unforeseen happens.
2) Why do people divorce in the first place? Because something, or, more likely, someone changes. Cheating, opinions on kids, temperaments, something changes and cannot be worked through, it is unforeseen and sad but it ends in divorce. Now sure, we’d all like to think that if we had to divorce that we could still be civil with our partner. But let’s face it, if we could be civil, we’d probably be trying to work through it! Therefore a prenup is protection. A prenup is your current partner protecting you from the partner they may become. This leads onto 3.
3) A prenup doesn’t just protect whatever it is that you both come into the relationship with (property, savings etc) but it sets in stone how you will split future earnings and property, 60/40? 50/50 etc? So if things get nasty the prenup prevents your changed partner from leaving you with nothing. It means that he can’t wipe you out (or vice versa! You should never cross a woman scorned) We’d all like to think that it would never happen, that it would never get that nasty, but we’d also like to think that we wouldn’t get divorced either.
In the end I certainly hope that I never, ever have to actually use a prenup, but when the time comes, I’ll certainly be getting one.
So, anyone else have any thoughts, pro or con, to share? Would love to hear, it’s a topic I’ve just been thinking about lately.