(Closed) My toddler is physically aggressive and abusive.

posted 7 months ago in Family
Post # 106
505 posts
Busy bee

This child needs professional help NOW! And lots of it. And please remove her access to all your pets because innocent animals shouldn’t suffer from this. There is nothing normal about it and nobody here can tell you why. She obviously needs a serious treatment. 

Post # 107
1204 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Your daughter needs treatment. Other people need to be protected from her. Unfortunately, your daughter is a risk for others now, and you need to act accordingly. 

Now that you know she strikes others, throws things and injures/ kills animals, you have an obligation to keep her away from other children and be hyper vigilant when she’s out and about.  Other children shouldn’t have to suffer abuse from your kid.

Ripping out piercings and giving her father a black eye are awful.  It would be even more awful if she inflicted these split-second injuries on people who haven’t signed up to be a part of her life.  A child psychologist who has experience with violent children will have suggestions on how to handle balancing her needs with other’s expectations of safety.

Post # 108
481 posts
Helper bee

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rosegoldlover :  I’m not going to speculate or comment on others’ speculations because I don’t think any of that is helpful. I’m glad to hear you’re taking her to the doctor and are going to pursue help! The one suggestion I have is to pull out your phone and record a tantrum or two to show both your husband and the doctors. This gives everyone an example of her behavior and proof that it is as extreme as you say it is.

Post # 109
11339 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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sunburn :  

This time, I agree with you.

The child’s behaviors, as reported by OP, sound consistent with conduct disorder.  And I am very sorry to have to say that.  There is no happy diagnosis coming down the pike here.

I posted links to two resources for further reading, should anyone be inclined in the direction of information gathering.

Post # 111
146 posts
Blushing bee

Oml. I realise that this is a serious issue but there’s no need to condemn OP’s daughter as a serial killer before a doctor has seen this child and she’s been assessed. There’s a lot of other reasons potentially for this behaviour. As extreme as this behaviour is, I don’t think we should be jumping straight to that conclusion and scaring poor OP. 

Post # 112
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

The daughter isn’t being condemned to anything but there is an obvious link between animal cruelty in childhood and psychopaths or serial killers. The intention isn’t to scare the OP but this two year old has already broken the leg of a pet cat, killed a fish and maimed a kittens face. Even one of those things would be incredibly serious and yet all three have happened before OP has sought any help for her daughter. Without scaring her unnecessarily OP clearly needs her eyes opened to quite how serious things are. 

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Post # 113
10020 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

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zzar45 : 
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sassy411 :  

Macdonald’s (or the homicidal) triad is pretty debated now. The link between those behaviors and serial killers is more pop culture circulating as fact than it is based on valid emperical research. Basically, now the thinking is more that those behaviors are often linked to abuse but aren’t necessarily predictors of future violent behavior.

“Together or alone, the triad behaviors can indicate a stressed child with poor coping mechanisms or a developmental disability; such a child needs guidance and attention. However, until we design and carry out better empirical studies than we’ve seen thus far, researchers and media agencies should refrain from stating that the triad identifies a future serial killer.” – from a Psychology Today article.

And this abstract says pretty much the same thing.


Post # 114
2248 posts
Buzzing bee

 libellules ,sassy411,

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zzar45 :  Everyone, including OP, knows how serious the behaviors are. Referencing these things is not helpful and frankly it’s cruel. Put yourself in OP’s shoes – how would you feel reading that?


Post # 115
222 posts
Helper bee

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katebluestone :  I wonder if that’s why she stopped responding on this thread. That is the worst thing you could say about anyone. 

Post # 116
9146 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

This thread is getting a lot of flags. I’m going to go ahead and close it. OP, good luck with the doctor. Please feel free to start a new thread with an update if you wish. 

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