(Closed) My Turning 30 Theory

posted 5 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsNewDay:  I love this! I’ll have to hang onto it when it’s my turn in a couple years.

I think you have a stellar attitude and I can completely relate to the goal setting section. I’ve realized I am really crappy at setting schedules and goals for myself, so now I know if I have a goal (ie. one is fitness related for me) that signing up for classes or with a group will keep me on task because I’m making sure I have a schedule. It makes such a difference in terms of my success and also how I perceive myself.

Keep doing your thing – your 30s are going to be amazing!! πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m turning 30 this year as well and I’m terrified.

I have decided to be real with what I’ve done in my life, the things I need to get done to improve myself and to just be content with what I have.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I turned 30 a few days ago. It’s better than NYE. LOVE IT SO FAR!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@notbridey:  Cool I love NYE! I’m glad you’re loving it so far. Just out of interest how did you celebrate? I’m really hoping it’ll be good.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I turned 30 a LONG time ago – I’m 38

IT WAS THE BEST DAMN THING EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My 30’s have been soooo amazing – got my dream job, bought my own place, strengthened freindships and made new ones, met Fiance and get engaged.

It has seriously been the best 8 years of my life πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I turn 30 this year. I don’t get why people view it as a death sentence. I’m more financially stable, I am more sure of myself, and I am definitely looking forward to life in my 30s.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Soon2BD-CBee:  

did happy hour with friends which went into dinner and drinks and shenigans. my fiance rented a cabin at our favorite hot springs for the weekend…just the two of us. it was relaxing and perfect!

i woke up the first morning we were there and was like I need to hurry out of bed so I can start relaxing in the hot springs…i realized that one does not hurry up to relax and promptly fell back asleep. πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Glasgowbound:  Sounds amazing. I want to be able to say the last one on your list by the time I’m your age.

 

@notbridey:  That sounds so lush, relaxing in a cabin. How romantic.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It isn’t a death sentence but I think the hardest thing is that there are some things in the back of our heads that should probably be let go of. I was having a hard time with turning thirty and I found out this was the reason.

For example, I won’t ever be a professional dancer. I never really *wanted* to be one – I just thought it would be sooo fun and I would sometimes picture myself doing it if I saw it on tv or something. When I turned thrity I let some of this go and I think I greived a little.

Afterwards, I began coming up with things that I was happy that I had accomplished so far in life. Things I didn’t have or do when I was 20. Like, I have more fun when I go out with my girlfriends because I care less about what others think. I never let a fun opportunity go by becaause I have realized you only have so much time left in this world.

I am a lot closer to my friends and family too. I make time for them in my life because I know they will not live forever either. Conversely, I can easily cut someone out of my life who is acting especially mean/rude/obscene because I don’t have time for negativity in my life. You don’t want to play nice? See ya πŸ™‚

I have finally found my career and luckily enough my Fiance. But at the same time he was proposing I became ok with the fact that if he didn’t, I would be ok with not being married – even it meant for the rest of my life. Social barriers and norms mean a lot less to me. I think for myself WAY more then I did when I was younger. I have accumulated the intelligence to think critically and not just be accpeting when people tell me ‘how things are going to go’.

I don’t think I am a model or a ten in anyone’s book but I **FINALLY** feel comfortable in my own skin. It took me thrity years to do this. I walked out of the house for the first time without makeup on and felt this intense freedom. I don’t do it a lot but the fact that I could..if I wanted to is…crazy.

Turning thirty wasn’t easy, but I am not sad about it anymore. It’s a new chapter and like you said OP – it’s cleansing and its a great feeling πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @MrsNewDay:  great post.

I didn’t find 30 difficult… my sufferings have always been with the “Five Years”… 35, 45, 55 etc

Because I begin to mourn a bit the time that went before (by 35, I was missing a bit the youth of my 20s)

Based on my life experiences…

The 20s are for personal growth… gaining knowledge

The 30s for personal strength… incorporating knowledge

The 40s for personal reflection… understanding that knowledge gained.

All very very empowering (I am a BIG Believer that women begin to hit their stride at 35)

And now in my 50s, I’m beginning to feel more “at home” with who I am, and turning my eyes and thoughts outward to the rest of the world.

How the world is different, how it is the same, how things work, where can I lend my skills, how can I help, how can I (one person) make a difference ?

 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m turing 30, in just a few short days (april 8th), and I just wanted to say that I love the approach you have on it.  I still have a little bit of that turning 30 fear, because I don’t feel as if I’ve acomplished enough in my life.  I spent years sitting around and waiting for things to get better, and they only did after I got my but in gear.  But, if I had not gone through all of that, I would not be where I am now.  I plan on having a great weekend (I’m getting my first tat on Friday night), and starting my 30’s feeling like I am working hard to become the person I am meant to be.  

My goals for my 30’s are: for my hubby and I to buy a house, loose that pesky weight I’ve been packng on in my less responsible years, finish my teaching certification, get a job in my field ( or something teaching or child related), and start that family.  Finally.  My 30’s will be my decade! 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i didn’t look forward to turning 30 either and wasn’t where i thought i would be.  i’ll be turning 32 in august.  i bought a house last year i adore.  my boyfriend moved in with me and then proposed a few months later.  yes, i won’t be married until i am 32, but i am marrying the man of my dreams and am very happy with where thing are.  if things happened sooner, i might not have been as happy or be with the right guy.

 

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@auggiefrog:  Have a blast getting your tat. Have you decided on what your having? Also good luck with your studies.  Not post related at all, but the roses in your pic are beautiful.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am turning 30 this year too, and embracing it!

Instead of dreading, I have been thinking about all the great things I want to accomplish before I’m 30 and me and my friends have done a 30 before 30 list. Plus I think I still look young which helps me not to feel old. Wink 

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