(Closed) My twin sister is suddenly questioning my relationship now that we’re engaged?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

How quickly did you go from the ex to your Fiance and how long were you dating before he proposed?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i was about to ask the exact same question as the pp

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

She is your twin. I can only imagine from what I have heard and from what I have seen on TV because I am not a twin, but you two must be extremely close. She is probably afraid of losing the closeness you two share. If you haven’t already, I would include her in some things that you and your Fiance are doing; hiking, going out to dinner, the park, etc. Let her get to know your Fiance, and I am sure she will come around.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Why do you want her approval? Her support I would understand, approval, not really. Approval is nice to get from friends and family but sometimes it’s not worth the hassle. Good luck though.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with noritake and brooklyn…but I also find that many Twins compete for attention, and typically (just coming from psych studies) one is more passive whereas the other is more aggressive.  Is it possible that she’s jealous of not only your relationship with your Fiance, but also the attention? 

Good Luck, I hope everything works out for the best!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would tell her that she should be more concerned if you weren’t working through those things before getting engaged/married. I would explain to her that you appreciate her concern, however you feel that you and your Fiance are in a good place and that you are more aware than you were before. Then I’d tell her that while you appreciate her concern, for the sake of your relationship with her, she needs to let it go and be supportive of you, since you don’t feel it’s an issue and are happy. 

It’s likely there is more to it on her end. Maybe she is worried about how things will change between you once you are married or she is jealous that you are taking the next step.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I have an identical twin sister and there is definitely tension there. She was my best friend for most of my life and now she and my Fiance are more like co-best friends. It’s a hard situation. I don’t know if that is what is going on here but maybe!

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