- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2008
Need some advice, ladies. My parents divorced when I was 5, and my mom remarried when I was 8. I have always had a good relationship with my Dad, but have technically spent more time with my step-father, being that I lived with my mom growing up. My step-father and I have an OK relationship, but there have been some ups and downs.
Hot topic is: who walks me down the aisle? If I’m being completely honest, I just want my dad to walk me. I love my Dad, and this is how I have always imagined it. I know that he wants to do it, too. My step dad and I do not have the same “love”, in fact, I have never called him “dad” and we have never exchanged “I love yous”. It never felt appropriate. My Dad is not jealous, and would never say so, but I feel that deep down he does not want to share this job with anyone.
How do I deal with the fallout with my mom and step dad? My mom has been harping on “alternative” weddings for years (even before I was engaged) basically assuming I would have both of them walk me down the aisle. I have never told her that I would do this. I feel like more so than my step dad, my mom’s feelings will be hurt if he does not walk me down the aisle. I think my mom has always wanted me and my step dad to be closer. It just never happened.
Is there a way that I can honor my step dad without having him walk me down the aisle? Is there any comparable alternative? I thought maybe I’d have 2 father daughter dances (will this bore my guests?) or maybe have my step dad do a reading during the ceremony. This stresses me out 24/7. Basically I don’t want to hurt anyone, but I feel like I should be happy, too. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.