Well, I am from NYC….and I now live and work in NJ. In general people are less…..uptight about it here. The principal at the school I work at is a very modern nun, she loves that I am an “individual” that still believes in God. She’s not a closed minded Christian woman.
My mother looks at her wedding pictures in regret because she listened to her mother. I don’t want to be that way…At 29, I think I know who I am more than I did when I was 22, the age my mother got married. So I know for a fact that I will never look upon my wedding pictures in regret if I keep doing what me and my fiance want.
“Nothing lasts forever, so live it up, drink it down, laugh it off, avoid the bullshit, take chances & never have regrets, because at one point everything you did was exactly what you wanted.”-Marilyn Monroe
I am not that much younger than you, I am 29, 30 in October. I found, through the other postitive responses here and especially my fiance that if I think I look beautiful, thats all that matters. If my family thinks the same it’s a bonus. Too bad you’re not having a Dead of the dead theme, I think that would have been pretty cool and memorable and as a fellow hispanic, it would have been nice to incorporate Mexican traditions and celebrating those we have lost over the years.
And I do respect my in laws, I’m just not going to become some rug they think they can trample over. Respect for myself comes before respect for others.
That “traditional” crap makes me uncomfortable and I never thought the point of a wedding was to help my family gush over me.
I already toned it down by buying a white dress….which wasn’t hard to get me to do because I never wear white. So I thought, “what the hell, you can wear a white dress for once and then trash it!!!! “
My family has been edging me to become just a tad bit…”main stream” but they accept me for what God has made me. Now, if my Future In-Laws can’t accept that, then they are the ones with the issues, not me. They should just be happy that their son has found someone who loves him and not worry about “people talking”.
Thanks to all the Bees who gave me positive feedback. I found my backbone again! lol