Post # 62
No need to get bent out of shape over my point of view. It’s just that, MY point of view. Do what makes you happy!
Also, comparing Puerto Rican culture to Mexican culture is pretty far off. They’re very different. I would never do a Day of the Dead theme because it would offend my in-laws as much as I think it would be awesome. I deal with the way things are, not as I’d like them to be and the fact is they wouldn’t get it.
Post # 63
Your wedding day is YOUR day. You have to do what makes you happy. You should never change for anyone. I think its great that you know who you are and what you want and are proud of it! If purple hair makes you happy then go for it! your braveness is admirable 🙂
Post # 64
OP I just wanted to chime in. You got advice from others although I am more in the compromise camp than anything. It is one day (although a hugely improtant one) and to create drama that could affect your relationship with your inlaws forever isn’t worth it in my opinion. I realise that might not be the popluar opinion here, but that’s ok:)
Really more what I wanted to comment on is your take on your SIL and Mother-In-Law talking about your wedding planning. I don’t know if you have sisters, but if I went with them and we talked wedding planning I would more than likely talk to my mom about what their plans are. Not to be vindictive or catty, but just in general conversation. Maybe they we really just talking about the wedding, so I am not sure there is a cause for all the hostility towards Future Sister-In-Law.
Post # 65
Then my apologies…when someone says +1 I always take it that they are agreeing with the whole statement unless they quote just part of it.
Post # 66
I think you should do what my mom did: gift her PURPLE HAIR EXTENSIONS and say, I saw these and I thought they were so you! Can’t wait to see you wearing them at my wedding!
Aaand still dye your hair purple.
(my mom does this all the time, she thought it was the best gift ever)
Post # 67
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Your fiance should be onboard with who you are, and he should fight these battles with his family on your behalf. Do what YOU want to do, not what others want/expect.
Post # 68
@Miss Moxy: Your fiance is marrying you, not some version that your mom is trying to make you. Be yourself! Screw what your Future Mother-In-Law thinks.
Post # 69
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
@Miss Moxy: the awesome thing about your wedding day (and your stylechoiceslife in general) is that it is about YOU and what makes YOU happy. As long as your Fiance accepts you, that’s all you should be concerned with at all outisde of if you yourself are happy with who you are. I think it’s awesome that you are going to stay true to yourself even if it isn’t what people typically expect for a wedding. If you want purple hair, go for it. Please don’t let someone who obviously cares more about others opinions than she should turn you into someone like her. My family can be very old school so I know what you mean, in a way. I have a tatoo on my chestshoulder. The biggest deal was made because the dress I wanted would show part of the tattoo. I don’t understand why people concern themselves with so much. Be excited, and make your wedding reflect YOU and your Fiance and your style and personality. Screw anyone who tries to get you to do it any differently.
Post # 70
I think the bigger issue is me resenting my Future In-Laws for making me feel like I can’t be me on my wedding day. I don’t want that. I want a civil and loving relationship with my Future In-Laws. I have done nothing wrong here.
And yes, I do have a sister and she does talk to my mother about my wedding, but she also talks to me about it. I dont have to hear it from a 3rd party, I hear things straight forward from my family. I dont mind that anyone talks about my wedding but to “plan” together to convince me to change my hair color through my fiance is not cool. She is putting my poor FH between us and I dont like it.
I understand where you are coming from in not causing drama. I dont want it but they seem to want to bring it. I am just gonna keep things to myself and hope they don’t make a big deal over things on the wedding day. Maybe their son’s happiness will blind them from my hair color or wedding decor choices.
Post # 71
He doesn’t think that there is anything to defend. He keeps telling me that they are not “attacking me”. I don’t see it as attacking but I do see it as rude and he should be telling them it’s really not their decision. He’s perfectly fine with my hair being purple. He doesn’t care what color my hair is, he just wants me to be there, happy.
Thank you though for backing me up.
Post # 72
@Miss Moxy: flip that birdie imo!! Sorry but after my first bowing to everyone and walking out 10 months later still on my knees – Noone, but NOONE has an opinion any more here 😀
Post # 73
Your style sounds awesome. I love that your bridesmaids want to match your purple hair!
When you look back at your wedding pictures years from now, do you want to see you or the person your parents wanted you to be? (This is a rhetorical question, obvs, lol)
Post # 74
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
do you girl and to hell with everyone else’s opinions
Post # 75
50 years from now, I wonder what you’d think about your wedding pictures with purple hair.
Ummmm I think she’ll look back and say, damn I rocked that purple hair. (????)
It’s about family to me. Clearly you don’t have the same respect for your in-laws that I have for mine, so I get it.
Completely ridiculous and rude thing to say. The OP is taking into account everything that pertains to the family’s comfort: food, drinks, seating, etc. What color the bride’s hair and dress are and the style of invitations, on the other hand, are personal style choices that have NOTHING to do with respect, reverence, or the guests’ enjoyment of the day.
Post # 76
Or she could say… look how ridiculous I looked. I’ve never seen a physician, an attorney, a social worker, a teacher, a therapist or a college professor with purple hair.
Now the barrista at Starbucks? Wait, not even the barrista at Starbucks.