Post # 1
me for a tip. He called me to make final “arrangements” for Saturday and before he hung up, he reminded me to tip as I am not paying him directly. Very awkward, I wasn’t expecting it and I understand why he mentioned it but now I see why asking for money is RUDE!
Post # 3
Well I see that as extremely rude and would refuse to tip but then agian I live in Australia and tipping is not a very big thing here. We only tip if we have excellent service or if (like me) we have worked in the hospitality industry before.
Post # 4
@armychica06: I would at the end of the night give him an envelope just before you leave with a note that says, “Here’s your tip. Don’t push for them and you’ll actually GET them.”
Side note – I’m not against tipping and plan to tip my vendors, I just think it’s rude that he pressed for one.
Post # 5
@armychica06: I’m a little confused as to what he means by you aren’t paying him directly? Regardless that rubs me the wrong way and even though I would never stiff somebody a tip, I would leave a little note afterwards about it.
Post # 6
What type of service is the vendor providing?
Post # 7
Yeah I would not tip him after that.
Post # 8
Eep. Does he own the business? Then you wouldn’t tip anyway. Is it like a maitre d’ and he normally gets tipped but that’s who you dealt with on the phone? In either case, I’d give him 10 bucks in an envelope, good riddance.
Post # 9
That’s so rude to “remind” you to tip him. It was my impression that you tipped the vendors if you were happy with your service. The tip is not a guarentee.
Post # 10
@armychica06: It does sound a little rude to “remind” you. Which vendor is this??
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2013 - The bride's hometown United Methodist Church near Kalamazoo
Hmm, yeah, I don’t think that sounds like good ettiquete at all: and I would think that people who work for tips would understand that asking for them means you’re less likely going to get them. Sigh. And I bet you planned on giving him one before!!
Post # 12
That is so awkward! That’s incredibly presumptuous of him to say that. I mean yah, maybe some brides don’t know the etiquette around tipping but it’s not his place to remind them. That’s kind of guaranteeing you’ll piss them off and not get tipped you know?
Post # 13
I think the best thing to do is contact the person he works for about the conversation. I’m sure they’d be even more upset than you that he’s pushing the tip on you.
Look at it this way – Are you going to recommend him or the company to any of your friends after this? Write a good review about him here or other review sites? If I was his boss, I’d be very upset.
Post # 14
@Spade504: he is being contracted to work my wedding through a company. So I get why tips are important to him as he is probably getting 40% of what I am paying.
@pecanpie: I completely agree. But now I worry if I don’t tip, will he fuck up my video.
@Pinkmoon: exactly, I don’t want to tip now. Really.
@wishingbee: I will contact the company after I receive my videos back and let them know. If he did it to me without hesitation, then he must be doing it to other coupes.
Post # 15
@Miss Bat: I sure did… Now, he won’t get as much.
Post # 16
can you tell him the tip will come after the video is done? so then he won’t mess up your video on purpose if the tip is bad. And also how can you decide how much to tip before you even see the product?