(Closed) My Vendor Just Asked

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Well I see that as extremely rude and would refuse to tip but then agian I live in Australia and tipping is not a very big thing here. We only tip if we have excellent service or if (like me) we have worked in the hospitality industry before. 

Post # 4
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@armychica06:  I would at the end of the night give him an envelope just before you leave with a note that says, “Here’s your tip.  Don’t push for them and you’ll actually GET them.”

Side note – I’m not against tipping and plan to tip my vendors, I just think it’s rude that he pressed for one.

Post # 5
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@armychica06:  I’m a little confused as to what he means by you aren’t paying him directly? Regardless that rubs me the wrong way and even though I would never stiff somebody a tip, I would leave a little note afterwards about it.

Post # 6
11482 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

What type of service is the vendor providing?

Post # 7
2285 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Yeah I would not tip him after that. 

Post # 8
3967 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Eep. Does he own the business? Then you wouldn’t tip anyway. Is it like a maitre d’ and he normally gets tipped but that’s who you dealt with on the phone? In either case, I’d give him 10 bucks in an envelope, good riddance.

Post # 9
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That’s so rude to “remind” you to tip him. It was my impression that you tipped the vendors if you were happy with your service. The tip is not a guarentee. 

Post # 10
9823 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@armychica06:  It does sound a little rude to “remind” you.  Which vendor is this??

Post # 11
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - The bride's hometown United Methodist Church near Kalamazoo

Hmm, yeah, I don’t think that sounds like good ettiquete at all: and I would think that people who work for tips would understand that asking for them means you’re less likely going to get them. Sigh. And I bet you planned on giving him one before!!

Post # 12
10452 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

That is so awkward! That’s incredibly presumptuous of him to say that. I mean yah, maybe some brides don’t know the etiquette around tipping but it’s not his place to remind them. That’s kind of guaranteeing you’ll piss them off and not get tipped you know?

Post # 13
15 posts

I think the best thing to do is contact the person he works for about the conversation. I’m sure they’d be even more upset than you that he’s pushing the tip on you. 

Look at it this way – Are you going to recommend him or the company to any of your friends after this? Write a good review about him here or other review sites? If I was his boss, I’d be very upset. 

Post # 16
30 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

can you tell him the tip will come after the video is done? so then he won’t mess up your video on purpose if the tip is bad. And also how can you decide how much to tip before you even see the product?


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